Not having much sex

[duewinter2021]

Sorry for a TMI thread. Just wanting to know this is normal?

I’m 15 weeks, still unfortunately suffering with sickness and fatigue so any energy I have is used on work and house work

Me and DH would have sex minimum twice a week pre pregnancy and now we’re coming up to 2 weeks no sex - I know this isn’t that long! And it’ll be longer than this after the baby is here

He’s not pressuring me at all, I don’t feel any pressure from him. It’s more myself, I used to enjoy sex and being close to him and I liked feeling sexy! And right now I just feel bleurgh, not sexy in the slightest and although my hormones are racing (hello extremely vivid sex dreams) and I WANT to have sex - I’m so physically wiped I just haven’t?

Someone please tell me they felt exactly the same? My mind and some part of my body wants to but on a whole I’ve felt too awful to have sex regularly

This is so ridiculously normal. I've only had sex once and I'm also 15 weeks. And even that was because I didn't want to deprive the OH.

Loads of people choose not to have sex out of fear of hurting the baby throughout the entire pregnancy (of course it doesn't hurt the baby).

Each to their own. Do what's comfortable for you!

Sex drive during pregnancy will come and go. There is no one single ‘normal’, just have sex when you want to and don’t worry about it when you don’t want to!

Honestly....totally normal! I had twins in January and wasnt intimate my entire pregnancy and probably until 4 months after. We didn't even have sex to conceive them as they were IVF babies 🤣
I had a noticeable baby bump from 9 weeks and my husband just doesn't seem to find pregnancy attractive

Totally normal!!!
I used to have vivid sex dreams too (never before!) But no actual desire to do the deed 😕
Was nauseous then not feeling sexy and then too big and uncomfortable.

Don't worry!!

I think we had sex a grand total of 5 times throughout my entire pregnancy. My sex drive just disappeared and DH was too scared of “poking the baby”. After a year of TTC I was glad of the break tbh!

I’m 28 weeks and haven’t done the deed since we conceived in (I assume) early January.

After a long time trying and fertility treatment we are both glad of the break 😂😂 I do miss it though but my husband finds it strange/ can’t get his head round a baby being in there

I think it’s a very personal thing and you should just do what you feel happy with :)

I'm 37 weeks and we've had sex 3 times the whole pregnancy. I didn't want to at the beginning cause I felt so rubbish.... Then I started to feel better and more up for it and he is totally freaked out by the baby in there and the bump 😂 hopefully I don't go overdue and feel like I need to have sex to try get the baby out 😂

We haven't DTD since I conceived which was late February! I had a lot of bleeding & pain in early pregnancy plus nausea which knocked my libido out. Now I've got pelvic girdle pain at 20 weeks so I don't see things picking up any time soon.

It's not at all surprising that you don't fancy sex, considering how rough you feel. It really should not matter, duewinter. You'll get your mojo back eventually.

I found during the second trimester my sex drive came back a bit and I did enjoy sex for a bit… I mean, only once a week, but it was better than the exhaustion of the first trimester. Now I’m 31 weeks and I feel no desire and there are fewer positions that are comfortable and don’t make me feel like a whale!
It’s very normal - it comes and goes, but that’s ok!

So so so normal. I didn't feel like it at all first trimester, second trimester we managed once a week or so, and now third trimester we try for once a week if we feel like it. Like others have said - after so much TTC I kinda enjoyed the break lol

40w and had sex twice since conception. DH finds it strange and the most recent time (6 months ish) found my belly a turn off.

Yeah sounds like me! Now in the third trimester and wishing I’d made the most of the second trimester because I dont feel sexy at all and have a big bump in the way 🙈 The thing that was putting me off was how dry I was so I started using pre-seed (that I’d used to get pregnant) again so it wasn’t painful! It’s now only happening about once every 2 weeks but I’m okay with that at this stage. Just don’t want it to completely stop then it’s ages til I’m recovered enough after baby’s here

Yep perfectly normal when you're feeling rubbish.
I put a sex ban in place after some spotting after at 14wk, was 28wk before we did try again. Thankfully no more spotting but dh was only home for 2 nights then went to sea again, I'll be over 35 weeks when he gets back but definitely up for it and missed it. We've got back to it not too long after previous births, vontouse delivery was the longest at 8wk pp due to internal bruising.

Oh and dh doesn't find bump a turn off. He was still up for it when I was huge with twins and he had a broken leg lol.

I've not had sex since last October this is when I found out I was pregnant. I'm now 4 weeks pp and to tired with a velcro baby to think about sex but hopefully in another few weeks when things settle down a bit I'll be ready for things to go back to normal

My OH is a lot less keen on sex now I'm pregnant I'm absolutely gutted but he assures me things will be back to normal once the baby arrives. I'm 33 weeks now so not toooo much longer hopefully

Just wanted to add that this is totally normal! Sex definitely decreased during first trimester, increased again during second, but is now at zero for penetrative sex during third trimester - I find I'm very dry and it's just uncomfortable with the bump, but we still make time to be intimate in other ways. My husband is still totally up for it, but also completely understands that I am not. I'm looking forward to getting back to it at some point once baby comes.