Pregnancy announcement

[JoLeoGirl]

I am in my third month , so 10-11 weeks . I have told only my family . I graduated from university 3 years ago but I have really close relationships with 3-4 girls. Not besties but very good friend and we talk very often. I really would like to share this news with them but every time I want to tell them I step back thinking what if something happens ? 😭😭 then I think whatever happens I need to celebrate every day. What is your advice ? I would really appreciate your opinions 💕

I've had this difficulty.

I wanted to wait until the 20 week scan before telling anyone because personally if a fatal or very serious problem was found, I would terminate.

I'm a hugely numbers oriented person and have literally obsessed over % chance of miscarriage every week since getting pregnant.

I'm now almost 15 weeks, getting married next week and have booked a scan for the day after when we will then tell people.

I'd personally wait until after your 12 week scan where the chance of miscarriage is under 2%. After 16 weeks it's about 0.5%.

I worked out the chance of having to terminate after 20 week scan (discounting the 3 trisomies which I already tested for) and worked out it was minuscule - something like 0.18%.

I also looked at what I'd have to go through if I decided to terminate a pregnancy fairly late on and I thought it was quite horrific so would at the very least need to tell my parents.

This maybe isn't the answer you were looking for but the numbers are very much in your favour after the 12 week scan but feel free to leave it a few extra weeks if that feels more comfortable.

As it's your first you can probably hide it until 20-22 weeks in any case 😊

I told my family and friends after the 12 week scan. To be honest I had had enough of hiding it by then and was so pleased once it was out in the open. Of course there's always a chance things may not go to plan after that but I would want their support as I would not be ok.

Thank you girls 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

I told one friend straight after I got a positive test. Then we had a night out and , being the party animal of the group who suddenly wasn't drinking, they all guessed. I was 5 weeks at that point. I'm glad thet know as they've been very supportive and if something did happen I would want to be able to talk about it to them x

@Mamaux maybe I also tell them this week ! I'm so excited ❤️ two of them have already two little toddlers 🙏

I told my close friends before 12 weeks. I wouldn't keep it from them if something had happened. They'd be there to support me with good news or bad news. If you want to tell them then tell them. Congratulations xx

@MamaEs thank you so much 💕🙏

I told close family at 9 weeks then friends at 11 weeks after a good scan. Sadly then by the 12 week scan my baby had died. However, next time there are only a couple of people I told that I wouldnt tell again - I needed most peoples support after loss and they were all lovely/

I told people after my 12 week scan. Just sent a message in the group whatsapp which made it easier!

We told our closest friends and the in laws between 11 and 12 weeks. I’m now 16 weeks and we haven’t announced, but only really because I’m self employed, and lining up projects nicely at the moment.

As ApplePie says, the stats are good after 12 weeks. Congratulations!

I sort of take the view that if they're good friends, wouldn't you want their support if something bad happens? I'd be erring on the side of telling them so that they can be there for you if things don't go as planned. But it's up to you obviously.

We told both our immediate families and a couple of friends immediately / after week 5 because if anything happened we would have told these people anyways and would appreciate the support. Anything can happen at any time, helps make it feel less lonely. The positive is that they're all understanding as I'm not feeling great at the moment.

I didn't tell anyone including family until after the 12 week scan. It was quite tricky waiting as I was already in maternity jeans and needed looser tops to hide it by then but I was adamant about it. I couldn't bear the thought of telling and then having to untell. Everyone is different though. Just do what feels right for you. However if you are already 10-11 weeks then it's not much longer. I would wait