Anyone else's partner been like this

[Lily189]

Hi everyone I'm currently 13 weeks pregnant with my second baby
And for the last 3 weeks my partner has been so distant
It all started with him saying I make noises when I sleep so he cant sleep beside me
We havnt had sex and hes just not interested I've tryer to initiate things he just says no
It's like he just dosnt want be around me
Everything was great up until now we planned this baby and he was so happy

I just dunno whats wrong my heads thinking all sorts
Like has he met somone else
Anyone else's partner been like this

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@Lily189 hiya didn't wanna read and run. Sorry to hear what your going through. I'm 9 wks but I'm trying to avoid sex for now due to 2 mc before now & also cos I've been so sick. In reference to my partner hes been helpful with the other kids. It may be worth trying to communicate with him and understanding how and why hes feeling the way he is. He may be going through something and it may help if he speaks to you and gets things off his chest. Would also help if you found things to do to keep u busy to try calm and relax you. Good luck

My partner hasn't been that way but i agree with pp, it would be good to tell him how you feel these days.
It might just be a case of sharing and talking about it. Perhaps it is sinking in he is having a baby and is freaking out a bit.
Obviously can't say for sure he hasn't met someone or is actually being distant for other reasons but if you say the relationship is good and this is a wanted baby, i don't see it being the case.

Let him know you feel some distance between you two and would like more intimacy etc...
See how he reacts or what he has to say!

You won't find out what the problem is unless you talk to him.

My DH went off Sex completely when I was pregnant. Just the thought of there being a baby in there completely freaked him out. The difference being that we were able to talk about it so I knew what was going on and didn't have to second guess his motives

And fwiw i recently felt the same way about my partner (we had a baby 12 weeks ago).

And at first i just got annoyed and sad and withdrew a bit until l i just told him i feel things have changed and we aren't close anymore etc...
And he told me to him nothing has changed between us but having a baby in the mix is obviously not leaving much time to connect "physically". But he assured he felt close to me and like a family he said. Despite him not sleeping in the bed (heat and co sleeping) and us not really sharing much at all!
But now that he knows i really need more attention he makes an effort to sit close to me on the sofa or cuddle when i am breastfeeding.
If your partner loves you he will try to make you feel good and loved. But he has to be aware of how you feel first!