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Male sonographer kept rubbing his arm on my pubic bone. Is this normal?

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RebeccaAndBump · 28/06/2021 17:00

Hi,

I am having my first child and I had my 12 week scan today with a male sonographer.
Just wanted to know is it normal for the sonographer to be rubbing his wrist against my Pubic area and applying pressure whilst scanning? This happened well over 10 times. I had a scan at 6 weeks and the only thing that touched me during that scan was the sensor and the gel. Any advise would be great?

Thank you

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shivawn · 29/06/2021 12:33

This has been normal for me, maybe it depends on how the baby is lying. I also don't think they said much before popping the tissue in to my leggings but I'd normally have them pulled way down for them as soon as I hop on the table (implied consent). It's never bothered me what body part they brushed up against, I'm usually busy squinting at the screen trying to get my head around what I'm looking at!

TooTiredForToday · 29/06/2021 12:37

It sounds pretty normal to me - my last scan the baby was tucked away very low and behind the placenta so it was hard getting the right angle. The sonographer was leaning all over the place.

Fair enough if you didn't feel it was explained very well to you why he was doing what he was.

RyvitaBrevis · 29/06/2021 13:05

At the 12 week scan they have to take a number of measurements, 3 times for each one, and these must be accurate. So it is very different to a 6 week scan, and certain angles may be required to get the right measurement.

To me it all sounds normal but the sonographer and chaperone could have communicated better with you and maybe could do with some feedback that they didn't communicate well to let you know what to expect or why it was happening, and you felt uncomfortable. It doesn't have to be presented as a formal complaint, it could be a comment instead.

You do sound a bit oversensitive about detecting sarcasm in m 'whenever you're ready'. They must say that 30 times a day, and even if you're right and they're desperate for lunch and hoping you will hurry more it's not something to take personally.

Iris2020 · 29/06/2021 14:20

Never doubt your instinct on these matters.

One of my favourite quotes:

"Trust yourself and listen to yourself. If the person opposite is making you feel uncomfortable, and even if this person is an adult, it's never, never you who are wrong. You have an alarm bell inside you, listen to it when it rings".

This idea that I had an alarm bell inside me, that it was always right, always allowed me to run from the very first step.

That vague sense of unease isn't a vague sense of unease. It's your alarm bell ringing. And if it's ringing, it's because it's right to ring. End of story.

Now that I'm a grown-up, or almost, I've lost count of all the times that this alarm has saved me. And I'm yet to hear it ring by mistake. On the rare occasions when I did not listen to it right away, because it was so small I believed it to be out of tune, the next steps proved me she had been right, again, since the start.

Of course, at first, it was about protecting me against perverts.
Then I realised it also protected me against non-sexual perverts.
Then I realised it also helped me in many different occasions.
Then I realised it also helped me in my medical consultations."

liloandstench · 29/06/2021 14:35

@LookinInurWindowStealingUrCat

Realistically he was probably lifting her top up because it was about to get covered in jelly. I feel a bit sorry for the guy too. I've had plenty of male doctors tuck in the tissue to my trousers, pull them down a bit etc usually whilst simultaneously having a discussion about something else like my blood sugar levels. They're just getting on with the job. If OP can't cope with a bit of pressure during a scan or someone touching her pubic bone she's really not going to like the third trimester.

What a pile of shit. Hmm OP can expect to give informed consent at any trimester. It sounds a lot like this person didn't feel he owed her the respect of telling her what he was doing, more than likely the next HCP will.

Come on. It was awkward, probably rude of him to touch her without even bothering to explain or make conversation. But some posters are just doing way too much.

BastardMonkfish · 29/06/2021 15:27

@LookinInurWindowStealingUrCat

Gaslighting women to think they're crazy, or weak because they don't feel comfortable with a situation that sounds wrong is far more than "cheeky" Hmm Envy Now take your piece of shit opinions elsewhere.

That's not what I did at all. What a nasty thing to say to someone.

Comment1 · 13/06/2024 09:17

That is totally freaking weird. I have had male massage therapists (3) try to touch me inappropriately. Trust your instincts. He was trying to turn you (and himself on) at the same time in my opinion. Completely horrendous and I would report to his supervisor how you felt. I don’t think you were wrong at all, but let the supervisor know how you felt and ask for a different person in the future. 🙏

Branleuse · 13/06/2024 09:49

Comment1 · 13/06/2024 09:17

That is totally freaking weird. I have had male massage therapists (3) try to touch me inappropriately. Trust your instincts. He was trying to turn you (and himself on) at the same time in my opinion. Completely horrendous and I would report to his supervisor how you felt. I don’t think you were wrong at all, but let the supervisor know how you felt and ask for a different person in the future. 🙏

Edited

It was 3 years ago.

Comment1 · 13/06/2024 10:24

Did you write the initial post? I didn’t see the original date. For some reason this article just popped up on my screen. In any event, maybe my comment can be helpful for someone else who has experienced this (or for the original poster). I was trying to show her some support and validate her that I don’t think this is normal.

Branleuse · 15/06/2024 17:36

Comment1 · 13/06/2024 10:24

Did you write the initial post? I didn’t see the original date. For some reason this article just popped up on my screen. In any event, maybe my comment can be helpful for someone else who has experienced this (or for the original poster). I was trying to show her some support and validate her that I don’t think this is normal.

It says the date on each post.
No biggie. Ive done the same before, but in case you wondered why op may not reply.
They really should make it so posts dont accept new comments after a certain amount of time x

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