Feeling Fragile

[Redpanda21]

I’m feeling super fragile this weekend, I have an early 7 week scan tomorrow and bricking it due to mmc last year. I keep thinking they will say the same as last year.

Hubby is being non verbal with me and moody because the house is a mess and I’m feeling exhausted, sick and the usual 7 week symptoms.

All I want is a bit of support mentally and a bit of empathy for how I’m feeling and all I’m getting is a mood! When he asks if im okay and I say like shite, he just says oh or why’s that. No asking is there anything he can do etc.

We’ve not told anyone due to last years mc so I have no one to go cry on.

Am I just being hormonal?

Whilst hormones won't be making you feel any better I feel he should be supporting you.
Have you actually told him how you feel like you have here?
Men are rather good at shutting their feelings off, I know my OH did after our MMC.
I think it would be good for you both to lay your cards on the table and actually talk about it.

Thanks @ApplesandBananas21 will try speaking to him.

I’m going to have a bath to relax and de-stress first as I’m a little angry and stressed which I’m trying not to be of course.

Hope you manage to relax and it goes ok!

No, you're not just being hormonal!

Pregnancy after a loss is a rough ride and it sounds like you're not really getting the support you need.

I can totally understand you not wanting to tell anyone you're pregnant because if your previous mmc but it does make it harder, I think, if you're not getting support from your OH.

I had two mmc last year and I'm currently 5w2d. I decided to tell a handful of people including my mum and two sisters and a good friend who I do the school run with so that no matter what happens at our next scan, I have someone other than my dp to talk to about it all. He's fantastic and lots of practical help but after going through two mmc in lockdown, we realised we also need that outside support so we don't lean too heavily on one another.

Hope you're feeling a little better today and good luck for your scan.

I got it all off my chest last night.

Went for scan and I’m just about 7 weeks, maybe a day or two before, I thought 6+5 so pretty bang on.

We saw the heartbeat and we are both more relaxed now and less stressed x

Brilliant news op!
Wishing you a happy pregnancy!

That's great news. What a relief!