Others announcing your pregnancy

[LilmissCa]

I'm currently 11 wks & 3 days away from having my 12wk scan and telling everyone.
Background.. I've had hg so been very unwell the last 6 weeks, bed ridden, admitted to hospital etc. Been hiding this from people cuz didn't want to announce pregnancy.
Due to this neighbours have become suspicious, last night we had a street party. I left early & after this one of the other houses announced to the whole street that I'm pregnant. My dp denied & denied but they kept going on & on & on. So now everyone knows.
I am livid & very upset. One of the girls is a nurse so I'm really pissed at the thought of them looking at my hospital file. But obvs don't know if this is true or I'm just being super paranoid.

Tell me I'm not over reacting & any advice on how can I continue living on my street.

Your neighbours are rude and should definitely mind their own business. You could have a word with them and let them know how you (rightly) feel about them telling everyone about the pregnancy.

That being said i don't think they meant to hurt your feelings and you can still do your announcement in 3 days the way you planned?

As for the nurse, she is a medical professional so even if she was so curious and looked into your file i am sure she would keep your information confidential. But honestly why would she look in the first place?

Congratulations!

Did they guess? It sounds like, despite your best efforts, it may have become a bit obvious… and while they should have not mentioned it, drunk people sometimes lack tact, and they probably didn’t mean to cause upset (although it was horrendously rude; there’s no excusing that).

I wouldn’t suspect the nurse had checked your file, that’ll all be tracked and it’d be a big breach of privacy laws & hospital guidelines for her to look you up if she’s not involved in your care; let alone tell someone else.

Congratulations!

I wouldn't worry about the nurse looking at your file. In the hospital where my friend works they have a system where the person accessing has to enter why they are looking at the file and it's audited. They had some bad publicity a few years ago because an administrator started snooping on people she knew. Apparently there were quite a few cases across the country within a short time period so most hospitals are getting very strict about file access. All that being said, 99% of professionals wouldn't dream of breaching your confidentiality like that.

Thanks!!

Not planning a big announcement, just mainly to tell my son & let him share the news to a few & then to tell a couple on the street. Who now already know. Immediate family already know cuz I've been so sick.
I was just getting paranoid cuz the nurse was surely saying I know.. I definitely know. And how would she. Don't think she did check, know it's illegal.

This happened to me whilst I was suffering from HG too. It was emailed out at work that they needed maternity cover in my dept and everyone figured it out, and then it started spreading out to other people because it seemed to everyone like it was just general news. I hadn’t even finished telling my family because I’d been so poorly 🙃

Some people are so aggressive when they ‘suspect’ you’re pregnant. Why can’t they just mind their own business? Sorry that happened to you, @LilmissCa. She’s a twat. Probably no-one is looking at your medical records, but I’m sorry that other people can’t respect boundaries or civility.

One of the girls is a nurse so I'm really pissed at the thought of them looking at my hospital file. But obvs don't know if this is true or I'm just being super paranoid.
This won't happen, you're definitely being paranoid about this part. Nurses can't just pull up any random patients hospital record and look at it. And if they could wouldn't it bother you that they might have looked at it before now, being pregnant doesn't change that.

any advice on how can I continue living on my street
It is really annoying and insensitive but soon it will be ancient history. Being pregnant isn't embarrassing or shameful so don't understand why your neighbours knowing 3 days earlier would mean you can't live near them anymore

@LilmissCa I'm so glad you were able to go for a little while.

I fe it's just soooo rude to speculate about other people being pregnant. You don't know if they're waiting for a scan or potentially waiting for confirmation that all is okay after tests.

In my previous job two women asked if I thought X was pregnant 'because her breasts were fuller'. I was pretty disgusted that they were so openly dissecting her appearance. She was the wife of a colleague. I also happened to know she was pregnant as someone who should have known better had let it slip.

I always wait for the announcement and give suitably surprised congratulations, even if DH or I have long suspected.

You're being a bit over dramatic OP. It doesn't really matter.

@BastardMonkfish after an early miscarriage I'm very more anxious & worried about my scan & if everything is going to be ok. God forbid if something is wrong then my entire street would not be who I want to explain that to. Also with a 5yr old son, he is my top priority of people to tell when I get my scan then my further friends & family.. not street acquaintances.

@ChocOrange1 I wouldn't have worried bout her looking before as she'd have no reason. But as her whole family have been monitoring my outfits & movements the past few weeks I initially thought she'd have a way to confirm. After settling myself a bit I really don't think she wouldn't have done that. As people have said it's not that easy as I thought.. hopefully!
Was definitely over reacting bout not living here lol always knew they were a nosey bunch but this takes it to another level!

Thank @Aranciata @Ednadidit yeah.. even if suspicion is there you don't call people out. Now the street is just avoiding me lol they'll probably play a big surprise act when my son bursts out on Tuesday telling the world lol
But oh well.. I've settled myself a bit from earlier!!