Nobody will help 😔

[Ter2021]

Hey,
So I’m 11.2weeks. On Wednesday night I started bleeding and getting cramps. Thursday i went to A&E and was taken to the early pregnancy unit- 6hours later I was examined by a dr they noticed I had a water infection, he examined me and found my cervix was closed, he gave me antibiotics and sent me home with a referral for a scan on Monday.
I’m still cramping and bleeding- phoned drs, midwifes, hospitals and nobody will help. I feel like I’m just being left to miscarry 😔 I feel so let down. I’m scared to pee because I know I will see blood when I wipe. I’m trying to be positive but I’m struggling. I don’t know what else I can do.

I'm so sorry @Ter2021.

I've had a few 'early' miscarriages (before 13 weeks but usually near the end of the first trimester) and I would recommend you ensure you have adequate pain relief. When possible, I've always opted for medical management (surgical option was never offered to me) as that way I knew when it was likely to happen, as opposed to just waiting until nature took its course, and still suffering morning sickness and pregnancy symptoms while waiting to miscarry. I made sure I asked for decent painkillers and some antiemetics because the strong painkillers make me very sick. Also ensure you are covered for time off work - the hospital midwife contacted my GP surgery directly and they provided a fit note without the need for me to phone up or have a GP appt.

I have had one 'natural' miscarriage and would not recommend this at all - I had to get through it with paracetamol and hot water bottles until my partner could pick up a prescription from the GP and get it filled. This one was my first pregnancy and consequently I'd had a booking appt but not yet a scan, so I did feel incredibly abandoned - in fact once I'd advised my midwife (by voicemail and text as she never answered her phone), she didn't phone back until a few days later and was very matter-of-fact and offhand about it, rather than being at all supportive. I appreciate she had other people to look after but it was a horrible time and I felt extremely alone. This miscarriage also took much longer than the medically managed ones - I was still having severe pain and bleeding a week after it started, whereas the medical ones were mainly done with in a couple of days.

I hope it goes as smoothly as possible for you, whichever option you choose.

Thank you @SillyBry and @TravellingJack for your comforting words and for sharing your experiences. Im so sorry for your losses 😔
My husband and I have decided to take the surgical approach - I cry every time I use the toilet I don’t think I could bear ‘passing’ the baby myself.

I’m so sorry @Ter2021 ❤️