Anyone fed up of everyone wanting to look at you?

[sarah13xx]

Wasn’t sure how else to word this 😂

I’ve got 6 weeks to go and feel like some sort of prize cow that people just want a look at. My MIL stays near us but we hardly ever see her normally. Since being pregnant she announces she’s coming to visit and it almost creeps me out because I know she’s coming just to look at me (and no doubt make her usual comments) 🙄 She is obsessed with over sharing people’s private medical information and constantly asks how I am etc. In the first trimester she’d say ‘oh you look tired!’ aka you look awful 🤔 I now just answer ‘ fine’ so I don’t give her any information she can’t go and share with randoms in the street (she previously told a random woman in the supermarket details about a scan that we kept quiet because it was quite worrying at the time). Thank god for social distancing so she can’t touch my bump though! 😊 I’ve been working from home in the third trimester so haven’t had the comments at work but before that it was people commenting on my bump in every room I walked into. I’m a really private person and actually find myself putting on looser clothes sometimes when people like my MIL are coming just so people can’t get a good look at it 🙈 At no other time would anyone look at or comment on your body in the way they do while you’re pregnant!

Just wanted to rant 😂

I do know where you’re coming from! I’m FTM and only 22 weeks but everyone is obsessed with asking about my bump, I’ve even had ‘no can I see it properly’ as I wear a lot of oversize jumpers etc.

Like erm no, I don’t ask you to lift up your clothes!

Luckily my in laws are ok so far apart from asking my husband about the bump they don’t ask me as they know I’d have a few choice words. I’m sorry you feel so invaded.

It’s like you get pregnant and everyone feel like they have a right to know your intimate personal and medical life isn’t it!

Sounds exactly like my MIL!!

@Tilly18101 part of it seems to be that people maybe think you want them to say something about the fact you’re pregnant but it gets exhausting when it’s every single person and all anyone talks about. I see people we know coming in the street now and think god, here we go 😂 It’s not that I’m not excited either, it just takes up so much of your brain.

No one has asked me to lift up my top yet though, jeez 🙈 My MIL has very little going on in her life and just sits in the house all week no doubt talking about me and my medical information. She was showing us a picture she sent to one of her friends of us and it was called both of our names ‘and my future grand child’. Like eh we’re actually having a child for us, not you sorry 🙈

@Thefaceofboe people would say ‘oh they’re just excited’ but omg back off!! 🙈😂

Yes and even when you're out and about random people definitely notice and look at you much more when you're visibily pregnant and not only that but they specifically look at your belly! I remember finding this bizarre in my first pregnancy finding people staring straight at my stomach all the time when I was out but then simultaneously finding it rare for anyone to offer me a seat on busy public transport etc . I hate being pregnant though for loads of reasons and this is just another one for my long list. And yes like PP I've been asked in both pregnancies by various people to lift my top up to show them my bump (by relatives, family friends and in-laws) and also had people (in-laws and family friends) just randomly grab/tap/touch my bump without asking.

I hated it in my first pregnancy. Everyone feels like they have the right to comment on your body all of a sudden. I’m quite slim so my bump was very obvious and “neat” . This was pre Covid and I worked in an open part of my office with 150+ people. Everyone felt the need to stop me and chat.

I know people are interested and excited, but like you OP, I don’t like the attention. And it would take me about 20 mins to make it to the loo because people would stop me!

I’m pleased everyone is WFH for this pregnancy, keeps comments to a minimum!

@MeadowHay oh no! Clearly I’ve been lucky that I’ve not had this yet 🙈 I’ve had one person at work just move in and put their hand on it but no one else has. I was quite taken aback! Someone else at work did say they wanted to feel and I was only like 15 weeks at the time, I thought my stomach isn’t much different to usual and it would be extremely weird if you felt it on a normal day 🤔 I’ve definitely had the looks when out places but other than when I’ve been in baby shops buying something no one has asked when I’m due. My husband was trying on clothes in a changing room a few weeks ago and the shop assistant told me to have a seat.. I could see her looking for ages before that so I knew she was hinting because you’re pregnant but didn’t want to say!

@LemonLemonLemon yip, I fear this would have been me if I’d stayed at work past 28 weeks! People all think they’re the first person that day to comment on it 🙈 I was having lunch one day and a girl at my work walked in and announced to the room I looked ‘huge’. I couldn’t even hide how cheeky I thought that was, think my face gave it away! At what point when that comment goes through your mind do you think it’s acceptable to say that to someone?! 😬 the second I told them I was pregnant I had people say ‘ohhh I can see that bump’ and I didn’t have one. I just used to think you’ve never told me I have a belly before yet here you are 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

My mum touched my bump, without permission, and I felt physically sick. So glad I'm pregnant during COVID-19. People are weird.