Third trimester - feeling extremely low and overwhelmed

[Chloe7737]

Hi everyone, I’m 34 weeks pregnant and feeling the worst I’ve felt in a long time. Wondering if anyone has any tips/been through or going through this and can offer anything! My pregnancy has so far not been the worst physically but mentally I am really struggling. I feel so guilty as I spend probably every day crying and I’m so conscious of these feelings transferring on to my baby! DH has been working more around 6/7 days recently so I spend all day everyday alone I don’t think that helps as I feel I just get further into my feelings when I’m alone, it also doesn’t help when he is here I seem to push us further apart due to my mood I just seem to snap at everyone. I have spoken to my GP/Midwife who has referred me to speak to someone about my feelings but that was around 4 weeks ago and I haven’t heard anything yet, sorry for the long babbling on I just feel everything is getting on top of me at the moment and I’m feeling like the worst person ever!

Hey - make sure you chase up the referral to speak to someone. I felt the same around 34 weeks and I think some of it for me was fear of how everything was going to change and having absolutely no control over when the baby was coming and the unknown. I also felt lonely at this time.

Keep talking to friends and family as they will understand. You're absolutely not the worst person ever! It's not unusual to feel like this at this stage of the pregnancy.

That’s exactly how I’m feeling also the fear of change! I’m excited and already feel so much love for my baby but I also can’t help think about how much my life is going to change and will probably never be the same again, I think subconsciously that’s contributing to a lot of my feelings just now :( thank you so much for your reply x

Honestly, when your baby is here you wont even remember that you felt like this - I didn't until I read your post and then it came back to me! Your life is going to change, but in the best way.

I read a really good tip which is to plan one thing for you for each day leading up to the birth. It could be small from putting an hour aside to have a bath, a face mask and a chill to watching your favourite film. It makes the days a little more bearable!

You've got this!

Hey,
Don’t worry too much, I am 34 weeks and noticed the same in the last week, I’m picking arguements, fine one minute and snappy the next. Crying over little things etc
I am on medication for ptsd that calms my emotions and the whole of the pregnancy I’ve been very stable so it leads me to think that it is common for this part of pregnancy and isn’t anything to do with my ptsd and all part of pregnancy xx
Try not to be too hard on yourself there’s a lot going on and it can be an anxious time as it gets closer to your due date, as well as thinking about how life will change, responsibility etc

I found 30-34 weeks extremely difficult too. The mixture of being uncomfortable, scared, bored, worried and DH not properly understanding what it's like to be heavily pregnant. I spent ages googling conditions like pre eclampsia and convincing myself I was ill.
Since I turned 35 weeks it has lifted, maybe just because I'm nearly there now or maybe the hormones have eased off slightly I'm not sure. But those few weeks very really intense.

I've just had my baby this week prem at 36 weeks. Honestly I felt like you too at 34. It was a low week for me. Now I am totally besotted and have the baby blues from hormones today but honestly your feelings will pass. It's totally understandable. Life is about to change in the most wonderful ways!

Im sorry youre feeling low but sort of relieved because i feel the same at the moment. Very tearful and cross and struggling with my toddler. No advice, just think it's quite normal x

Are you seeing friends op? Sitting around by yourself obsessing will only make you feel overwhelmed more. Sometimes you need a lunch or evening with friends, a shopping trip - something to remind you that a baby isn’t halting life it’s adding to it.

Thank you all so much for your replies! It’s reassuring to know it’s more common than people think, here’s hoping it will lift for all of us sooner rather than later xx

@OnlyFoolsnMothers I’ve not saw my friends in a few weeks, we’ve messaged back and forth but it’s difficult as I’m now on maternity leave and they’re still working a lot! I’m spending a lot of my time alone and during the day I don’t talk to anyone so I know that’s definitely adding to all my feelings and it just seems intense sometimes. That’s a good idea I think it’s needed lol thank you for your reply