Pregnancy of an unknown location at 6+3. Can't stop crying.

[Lizzyblue]

I finally got my bfp after nearly a year trying, and was so excited and over the moon. Told some close friends who were so happy for us and like some cruel joke immediately after I started bleeding then it got heavier.

Been in hospital and they did a scan and couldn't see anything, even though my urine shows I'm pregnant. I keep bleeding and showing clots and they confirmed it's a miscarriage and now have to have a second blood test to rule out if ectopic.

I feel absolutely devastated, I can't stop crying. In my head I was looking ahead at our future with our baby and now have nothing.

I found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks and miscarried last night at 6 weeks +3. It was my first pregnancy after a year of trying.

Will the pain go? Even though it was 6 weeks I feel so heartbroken.

Sorry to hear it. Plus side is sometimes it kick starts the body up so you may find you become pregnant again quicker. A bit like when people have IVF and then naturally fall pregnant again not long after.

Sorry for your loss. X

@Lizzyblue I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out for you and I am sorry that was the outcome.

I just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

After having an ectopic and my right tube removed on March 17th I surprisingly found myself having a positive test on the 28th May. Excited but nervous I went for my 6 week scan and was so relieved to find the pregnancy in the right place with a heart beat.

Literally from driving home from the hospital to getting home I started spotting and by Saturday this turned to heavy red bleeding. Today at my scan they confirmed I have had a complete miscarriage.

I am always here if you want to private message. It’s an awful things to have to go through yet so many women go through it and it’s just not spoken about.

Rest up and grieve. You have every right to feel how you do. Time is a healer

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're right, it's heartbreaking no matter what stage of the pregnancy you're at. I promise it does get better though. You never forget but it doesn't always feel so raw.

Sorry to hear too KJW00.

Feel so heartbroken, I'm also exhausted as was up all night in a and e. Had a horrific experience as I was bleeding heavier and heavier and still took them ages, took me having a breakdown in the middle of a and e as the bleeding got so heavy and I started panicking for someone to finally see me. Been poked and prodded, still bleeding and have pain.

Just feel like an idiot for getting overexcited and thinking something amazing happened for us.

Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry.

Take time to grieve and be kind to yourself. Nothing you could have done would have prevented this, not that it makes it any easier, but it will get better xx

Sorry to hear that OP, also to let you know you aren’t alone we did the same and got excited and then yesterday I started bleeding also around 6 + 3 and had to go to a&e. They haven’t been able to conclude anything yet but I have a horrible feeling. The wait in a&e was tough and it is heartbreaking. Hopefully time is a healer xx

25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage and unfortunately most of these are early on, hence people don't usually inform friends and family until at least the 12 week scan.

I'm sorry for your loss this time. I'm sure you will have the amazing baby you've always wanted.

I’m so sorry @Lizzyblue

I’m really sorry for your loss. Please don’t feel stupid for being excited and telling a few people… it’s really important to remember that these things happen whatever we do!
I had an ectopic last year, which was really hard. I’m always here to talk if you have questions.
Be assured there are plenty of positive stories of conceiving after miscarriage/ectopic pregnancies.
But at the moment, focus on you. Grief what you have lost and focus on your wellbeing until you are ready to start again.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there too, miscarried at 7 weeks, few years ago. Even though I already had a child, it was so, sooo upsetting. I then conceived again 4 months later and had a healthy pregnancy.

It does get better, trust me. The only thing that kept me from despairing was that at least it happened earlier rather than later. The further you are into the pregnancy, the bigger the sorrow..

So I know nothing can make you feel better at the moment, but at least it happened now and not in 2, 3, 4 weeks time or more.. You would have made more plans, told more people, thought about names etc.

Stay strong and I'm sure you're going to get pregnant again soon. As pp's stated, a MC does sometimes boost fertility.

All the best and take care xx

So sorry that you’re going through this. I’ve been in your shoes, last year at 7 weeks, horrendous scary bleeding and hospital etc. Was awful. But, what I wanted to say was that you did absolutely the right thing in telling your friends. While it was obviously horrible when I had to un-tell people, I was so grateful for the kindness and support I got and I have never felt the need to hide it. You might want privacy to grieve too, but kind friends will be good for you over the weeks and months ahead when you’re recovering in body and heart.
Sending strong and calm thoughts to you.

I'm so sorry lovely, I've been there. These things are so hard. It doesn't matter that you had told people or when you tell people, it's your pregnancy no one elses you do what feels right.

Look after yourself and rest. I'll pray for your rainbow

OP we tried for 2.5 years then I had an ectopic at 7 weeks. I know your pain, I became very depressed. However I fell pregnant again very soon after my recovery - my DC1 - and recently had DC2 with no problems too. Don't despair xx

Thank you everyone. The pain emotionally and physically is so hard. So raw still. I'm still bleeding and cramping so hoping it eases soon

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had an ectopic pregnancy which miscarried at 6 weeks. That was after 2 years of trying. The pain does get easier and you will get through it, even though right now it doesn’t seem possible. Be kind to yourself, and take the time you need. I went back to work after 2 days and in hindsight I should have taken longer. If you feel able to, tell people what happened. People will be kind to you.

It is so very very difficult when this happens and it's your first pregnancy. I hope you're being well looked after OP

So sorry for all your losses. It's horrible to go through. Doesn't matter how many weeks you are you have still lost your baby that you have dreamt about. I experienced this in March and it broke my heart too. Just know it's nothing you've done wrong and I do believe that you will fall pregnant again soon. I had surgical management of miscarriage at beginning of April and found out I was pregnant last weekend. It will happen. Sending you lots of love.