Hi ladies, as titled we discovered at our 20 week scan yesterday that our little man has a cleft lip. We’ve been referred to CLAPPA and have an appointment with them next week.
I’ve spent the last 24 hours just sobbing due to the shock. My OH is just numb and not really saying a lot so I’m worried about him.
I’m just looking for a hand hold in these initial days because I’m just absolutely devastated. I worried about so many other things due to having previous mcs I didn’t even consider a cleft lip. I do understand that it can be fixed but I suppose I’m (selfishly) grieving what I feel is that newborn bliss after birth. I feel as though the birth will be tainted by everyone’s concerns around the severity of the cleft. I feel like the remainder of my pregnancy will be spent feeling sad and worrying. And most of all I worry about sharing him with the world because may react badly or see him as less than perfect.
We are having an amnio to determine if there are any further issues, but I’m just so sad it is overwhelming. Please don’t judge me or take offence to anything I’ve said. I know there are worse things, I just don’t know how to deal with this. Thank you xx