Anxiety

[timewilltel]

Please tell me it's not just me who feels this way but since finding out that I'm pregnant with our second baby (I'm 3weeks) I'm just overcome with this anxiety about something going wrong. If I'm honest it started from when we decided to try I was thinking as a 39-year-old I know the chances are much more slim and I started to do the dreaded google search and read a lot about secondary infertility and how it's much harder to conceive your second child than your first regardless of your age. All I kept worrying about was what if we never have a sibling for our son but fortunately we did get pregnant first try which I am so grateful for and still can't believe it and now I'm pregnant all I'm thinking is what if something happens like I have an ectopic pregnancy or miscarriage coz I read sooo much about it and it seems so common and when I go to my first scan what if they can't find a heartbeat or they find medical issues with the baby or something like literally this is all I'm thinking about and it's consuming my mind and making me really not enjoy the pregnancy ☹️ I actually felt like this with my first pregnancy but not as bad, it seems to be much worse now maybe because of my age. I was 36 when I had my first and that's no spring chicken but I know the closer you get to 40 the more complications you may have 🤷🏻‍♀️ does anyone else have this problem??

Firstly, congratulations! Secondly, as easy as it is to say.. no amount of worrying or imagining all these awful things that could happen is going to help. Chances are you will be absolutely fine. It’s just such a hard lonely time at the start when you can’t really talk about it to many people! Have you got an early scan booked for reassurance? I was so far in the ‘no way is this going to be okay’ camp that I was not even expecting anything to be there at almost 7 weeks when we saw a heartbeat. I was then delighted for 5 minutes but by the time the 12 week scan came round I was almost holding my breath like there was no way a baby was going to appear on the screen. I’m younger so didn’t have the age worry, more just that I’m a generally anxious person. It doesn’t help either when you tell close family sometimes and they get all excited about this baby but you just can’t until you know everything is okay! I’m sure it will be fine 😊 fingers crossed for you x

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I am suffering some anxiety about the health of my baby. The latest thing is that I got strep throat a few weeks back. It cleared up on its own but I stupidly Googled how it could affect the baby. I keep Googling other things too (things I won't scare you with) but gosh, I wasn't so anxious with my first. I'm 35 weeks and I just can't wait until the baby is in my arms and I can see for myself they are ok.

I've not got anything useful to say but I definitely understand how you feel.

Hey,

I'm exactly the same! I'm 37 and 12 weeks pregnant. I was 27 and 29 when I had my previous 2 children, and although I had the usual nagging worries, it was nothing like this time.

I have my 12 week scan tomorrow, and I'm so anxious that they aren't going to find a heartbeat, or that there's going to be a medical condition.
I'm so nervous that it's almost zapping the excitement and joy out of my pregnancy so far.

Unfortunately I don't have a magic wand to take our worry away, but I wanted you to know that you aren't alone.

I know the first trimester can be such a challenge, and it doesn't help when like me you Google everything 🙈.
Have you thought about booking in an early scan at around 7 weeks, just for peace of mind?

@sarah13xx I've actually only found out over the weekend that I'm pregnant so haven't even had a chance to go to my GP and book anything in yet so I guess I should get on with that x

@HumunaHey exactly! I think that's the only time I'd be relaxed is when they are actually in your arms and you know everything is ok! But saying that you're probably gonna have that worry about whether baby will be ok and if they've got a high temp etc 😞 I guess the worrying never will end! 😫 my son is nearly 3 and I still get paranoid sometimes about something bad happening to him 😔

@deethra it looks like you feel exactly how I feel! 😫 I haven't got no scans booked in as I've just found out I'm pregnant but do I pay for the reassurance scan coz I don't remember having that with my first. The first was just from 12 weeks and talking of 12 weeks good luck with yours! Praying that it all goes well for you! X

Thank you!! I don't feel like I'm going to be able to get any sleep tonight.

You'll have to pay I believe but for peace of mind, and if you're financially able, it might be worth it!?
Maybe look into how much it will cost, and then gage from there.

We also thought it might take us awhile to conceive (husband was looking forward to all the baby making to come), and we also fell pregnant on the first try (much to my husbands disappointment, haha).
As much as the Internet seems your worst enemy once you're over 35 and ttc, I think our bodies have proven that we aren't quite over the hill yet.
I've stopped googling now, it just drives me crazy.

I really hope the next few weeks fly by for you, and some of that worry and stress start to subside.

@deethra

Thank you!! I don't feel like I'm going to be able to get any sleep tonight.

You'll have to pay I believe but for peace of mind, and if you're financially able, it might be worth it!?
Maybe look into how much it will cost, and then gage from there.

We also thought it might take us awhile to conceive (husband was looking forward to all the baby making to come), and we also fell pregnant on the first try (much to my husbands disappointment, haha).
As much as the Internet seems your worst enemy once you're over 35 and ttc, I think our bodies have proven that we aren't quite over the hill yet.
I've stopped googling now, it just drives me crazy.

I really hope the next few weeks fly by for you, and some of that worry and stress start to subside.

@deethra omg I would be the same and wouldn't be able to sleep either! But yeah you know how parents can put restrictions on certain websites for their kids well my partner wants to do that with me "Google" 😳 and yeah again best of luck with the scan tomorrow I'm sure everything will be fine xx

@deethra just wanted to know how you got on today? Hope all is well! X

@timewilltel
It went really well! Thank you so much for asking!!
Babies heart beat looked strong and he/she was fidgeting away for the whole scan.
I opted to do the Down's syndrome, Edwards' syndrome and Patau's syndrome screening this time. They said I should get the results within 7-10 days, so I'm hoping for a speedy mailman.

How are you feeling?

@deethra oh that's brilliant news! I'm so happy for you! Just goes to show not all scans will be bad and I'm sure it's the majority that'll turn out just fine so I'm just guna try and stay positive! Yeah for my first pregnancy I done that screening too and the thing we haven't got on our side regarding that is our age so no matter how good everything else might be, because of our age it will take that into account and make the statistics more lower. But again, that's something else that is really rare, just like scans going bad so don't worry too much about that. Gosh yeh worrying doesn't seem to stop does it 😒 All the best with everything hun xx