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Terrified about a second miscarriage

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Jcat28 · 21/06/2021 15:16

Does anyone have any advice please for not going out of your mind during a second pregnancy after a miscarriage? We lost our first pregnancy at 9.5 weeks after seeing a heartbeat at 7 weeks. It was a missed miscarriage so we only found out at a scan it had died probably a week before that. Because of COVID, it took two weeks before I could get an operation and I think it was probably the worst two weeks of my life. Now we are pregnant again, 16 weeks today. I’ve had cramps and spotting on and off all the way through, but we did a nuchal scan and harmony test at 12 weeks and another scan at 14 weeks, all of which were normal. We’ve been told the chances of something going wrong now are very low, but the chances of what happened before were about 1%, and I just cannot stop worrying. It’s making me crazy, especially thinking that it could be another missed miscarriage with no symptoms. I’ve been trying to relax and enjoy our honeymoon but I’m going out of my mind. Does anyone have any advice? We can’t get a scan ‘til we are back home in a week and I feel so guilty and sad, like I’m spoiling what should be the happiest time. So grateful for any thoughts anyone has x

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Cafeaulait27 · 21/06/2021 15:34

Hey, I have a very similar experience to you. My first pregnancy last year, all seemed to be doing well and saw a HB on scan at 7 weeks, but then miscarried at 9 weeks (I had been spotting and went to EPU, they confirmed there was no HB). Most horrible time of our lives. I then had a chemical pregnancy/early mc a few months later.

I then started taking low dose aspirin when I got pregnant in February and everything has gone well this time (so far). We had a normal 12 weeks scan, NIPT test which was normal, and a normal 16 week scan where we found out we’re having a boy!

I found it so so hard and I still freak out from time to time, but honestly once you start feeling regular movement you will feel so much better. I started to feel movement every now and again from 15 weeks but now it’s every day which is so reassuring.

The only advice I can give is to try to do whatever you can to take your mind off the worrying, but if you need to, do call your midwife or triage if you’re worrying as they are really good at calming you down (I’ve done it a few times!)

The worry never fully goes away after a mc but I can tell you that it gets much easier after you start to feel movement. Hang in there ☺️🌈

Anynamenottakenplease · 21/06/2021 15:37

Sorry you are going through this. I had a similar first pregnancy loss and felt exactly the same as you have described throughout my second pregnancy which in the end resulted in a healthy baby and I regret not enjoying my pregnancy but at the time every cramp or spot of blood would make me panic. I don’t have much in the way of advice but just wanted to let you know you are not alone in feeling the way you do. If you haven’t felt movements yet, you soon will and that should help with how you are feeling.

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Jcat28 · 21/06/2021 15:47

Thank you both so much xxxx

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Jcat28 · 21/06/2021 16:10

And also, should have said, I’m sorry, so sorry you’ve been through it too. So many women…

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Cafeaulait27 · 21/06/2021 16:15

I’m really sorry you went through it too. But your chances are really good this time, hold onto that! 🌈☺️

Confused521 · 21/06/2021 16:18

@Cafeaulait27

Hey, I have a very similar experience to you. My first pregnancy last year, all seemed to be doing well and saw a HB on scan at 7 weeks, but then miscarried at 9 weeks (I had been spotting and went to EPU, they confirmed there was no HB). Most horrible time of our lives. I then had a chemical pregnancy/early mc a few months later.

I then started taking low dose aspirin when I got pregnant in February and everything has gone well this time (so far). We had a normal 12 weeks scan, NIPT test which was normal, and a normal 16 week scan where we found out we’re having a boy!

I found it so so hard and I still freak out from time to time, but honestly once you start feeling regular movement you will feel so much better. I started to feel movement every now and again from 15 weeks but now it’s every day which is so reassuring.

The only advice I can give is to try to do whatever you can to take your mind off the worrying, but if you need to, do call your midwife or triage if you’re worrying as they are really good at calming you down (I’ve done it a few times!)

The worry never fully goes away after a mc but I can tell you that it gets much easier after you start to feel movement. Hang in there ☺️🌈

Can I ask why the low-dose aspirin? Thank you!

I am in a similar boat too. Had a loss at 10.5 weeks last year and I'm now 10 weeks. If I think about it at all, I worry so I try to forget except the body isn't good at that - have morning sickness and bowel issues at the moment. Can't wait for the first scan in a few weeks!

Good luck with everything!

Cafeaulait27 · 21/06/2021 17:56

Hey @Confused521 sorry for your loss.

I started taking the aspirin (150mg a day) after reading a lot of success stories on mumsnet, a recommendation from a friend who had 3 mcs and her first successful pregnancy whilst on aspirin, and a lot of my own research.

It’s often given to women at recurrent miscarriage clinics as a first port of call, even if all tests come back clear on a ‘can’t harm, might help’ basis as it slightly thins the blood and thus allows nutrients and oxygen to get to the baby more easily, aiding with development. I really think the aspirin helped me although I’ll never know. My theory with my first mc was that baby wasn’t getting enough nutrients and oxygen, as everything appeared normal and there was a heartbeat, baby was just small for the amount of weeks I was supposed to be.

I was never tested for any clotting issues though, this was just me trying to make sense of things. I figured I had nothing to lose so I started taking it from ovulation (as it can help with implantation), got pregnant and have just continued taking it. My midwife knows I’m on it and doesn’t have any issue with it. I haven’t experienced any bleeding in this pregnancy (touch wood) so far.

I hope this helps!

If you are 10 weeks and everything is fine then you probably don’t need it ☺️ Good luck this time 🌈

Confused521 · 22/06/2021 17:22

@Cafeaulait27

Hey *@Confused521* sorry for your loss.

I started taking the aspirin (150mg a day) after reading a lot of success stories on mumsnet, a recommendation from a friend who had 3 mcs and her first successful pregnancy whilst on aspirin, and a lot of my own research.

It’s often given to women at recurrent miscarriage clinics as a first port of call, even if all tests come back clear on a ‘can’t harm, might help’ basis as it slightly thins the blood and thus allows nutrients and oxygen to get to the baby more easily, aiding with development. I really think the aspirin helped me although I’ll never know. My theory with my first mc was that baby wasn’t getting enough nutrients and oxygen, as everything appeared normal and there was a heartbeat, baby was just small for the amount of weeks I was supposed to be.

I was never tested for any clotting issues though, this was just me trying to make sense of things. I figured I had nothing to lose so I started taking it from ovulation (as it can help with implantation), got pregnant and have just continued taking it. My midwife knows I’m on it and doesn’t have any issue with it. I haven’t experienced any bleeding in this pregnancy (touch wood) so far.

I hope this helps!

If you are 10 weeks and everything is fine then you probably don’t need it ☺️ Good luck this time 🌈

Thanks for the info, that is super interesting. I usually take low-dose aspirin, funnily enough, though haven't for a while or since I got pregnant.

Thanks also for your wishes. I should say, I estimate I am 10 weeks, based on when I think my last proper period was in April. I'll find out for sure when I get a scan (which I am really nervous about!!!!)

Confused521 · 22/06/2021 17:39

There is loads of available info about how aspirin is helpful now and upto about 36 weeks for those at risk of pre-eclampsia - which I probably am due to age!

Cafeaulait27 · 22/06/2021 17:52

@Confused521 yes! There is info about this in my maternity notes, I think so women are advised to take it later on if they start showing signs or are high risk for pre eclampsia.

If you wanted to take it again, there’s no harm in it, recommended dose is 150mg xx

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