First trimester anxiety after 2 mc

[Hannahcats]

Hi guys. Third pregnancy in a year over here, last two ended in miscarriages at 5wks (found out at 8) and 6wks (found out at 7). I've had a scan a week ago after some bleeding and everything was apparently fine - I'm now 10 weeks. But due to my past experiences I've now completely lost faith in it again, and I can't seem to find ways of stopping feeling so anxious. I get twinges and cramps constantly and now every time I do, I think it's the end. I feel like I can't trust my body. I can't just go to scans every few days but I'm struggling to work out how else to manage it. Does anyone have any tips or experience with this? I seem to be able to cope with general background anxiety but it's now taken over again and I feel really negative and bad.

Hi @Hannahcats I'm sorry to hear you're having such a tough time. I'm in similar situation, although much earlier than you with this current pregnancy. I just wanted to say you are not alone. I've just bought the book Pregnancy After Loss by Zoe Clark-Coates and it seems really good. It's good som.egeneralt advice and tips and then a day by day guide to coping with your new pregnancy. It's helping me to feel grounded and to try and acknowledge that for today I'm pregnant and by feeding my anxiety I'm not making anything any better for myself. Have you had your booking in appointment with your midwife yet? I'd really recommend speaking to them about it if you haven't as they can refer you on for additional support if you think that would help.

Sorry I meant 'its got some general advice...'

No real tips I'm afraid but I didn't want to read and run.

I've had 5 early losses - two of those were last year, both at 8 weeks and discovered on scan two weeks later. I'm now 4w1d pregnant and finding it difficult to keep the negative thoughts and anxiety at bay.

I'm going to check out the book mentioned by the pp as I've heard à few people talk about it now. I've been listening to 'the worst girl gang ever' podcast and I'm just trying to keep myself as busy as possible until we can have a scan but even then I know I won't really relax.

@Jellybean8 thanks so much for your reply and book recommendation. I'm sorry you've been through similar. I have had my booking appointment and have self referred for IAPT but I'll mention how I'm feeling to them this week when I go for my bloods. Its so hard not to slip into total hopelessness. I hope yours works out for you this time. Xx

@ButtercupBlue sorry you've been through all that. It's so hard because repeatedly being pregnant is actually very gruelling, on top of everything else. Scans always feel like such a short term fix too, don't they? I hope this time works out for you. Xx

Have you got the pregnancy calculator countdown thing? It tells you the % chance of miscarrying & updates everyday, I checked it religiously every day up to 20 weeks or so I think. It really helped me anyway, seeing the chances decreasing! I had 3 miscarriages in a row then my daughter, good luck xx

[quote Hannahcats]@ButtercupBlue sorry you've been through all that. It's so hard because repeatedly being pregnant is actually very gruelling, on top of everything else. Scans always feel like such a short term fix too, don't they? I hope this time works out for you. Xx[/quote]
Thank you. And yeah, for me scans only seem to reassure me for about 24 hours before I manage to convince myself something has gone wrong since. It's so hard.

Fingers crossed we both get our rainbow babies this time.

@Hannahcats sorry to hear of your pass events and everyone else. Similar to me. I've had 2 mc and my anxiety is something else. I'm doing acupuncture and mediation which does help. But cant help to check for bleeding still. I wanna be able to enjoy the pregnancy but happy and still slight anxious. Had a scan at 6 weeks and everything is ok and also getting more symptoms than I did initially but still nervous. I booked a private scan for next week and pray all is well. 🙏🙏