23 and pregnant, am I ready?

[Princessdisney18]

I’m 23 and have just found out i am pregnant, my initial reaction was panic, I booked an appointment at my local clinic for a termination the same day I found out. It’s now 1 week later, my appointment is in 2 days and I am in termoil over whether I’m doing the right thing. I have a job and am currently studying online part time also, my boyfriend has a well paid job but also wished to study in the future. He has his own house and I still live at home, we both have no debt (apart from my student loans) I own my car and my outgoings are very little. He believes we can’t afford a baby yet and would rather we waited. I can’t help but think that we would be ok, I have savings, I have a very very supportive family who I know would help, we have a house to live in, yes it would probably be hard financially but I don’t think that would change simply by waiting a few years. I can’t help but think I don’t want this abortion. Am I too young? Am I ready? This is the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make.

You sound ready to me, even though this was unplanned. The decision is entirely yours to make. Your boyfriend's preferences count for nothing as it's your body, your life. Plan for raising the baby on your own and if he grows up enough to take part, or turns out to be your forever man, that's the icing on the cake. The relationship will die if you are pushed into a termination you don't want. You have a job, family support and better prospects through studying.

Hey, I have also just found out I’m recently pregnant and I’m 23! Me and my DP have not been together long and have so many mixed emotions surrounding it! We are moving into our flat next week and we are both in full time work. My dp also studies full time and I have just graduated. I fear finically it’s going to be a huge struggle but he is convinced we will make it work! He is incredibly supportive and I feel I’m just super scared. I’m completely torn in my decision it changes every day. I never saw myself becoming a mum untill I was older and further down the line in my career, but since finding out I cannot stop thinking about how amazing it will be!
You are not alone!!

I got pregnant with my first at 24? Also, this is a baby we are talking about - if you were given a child to look after but you didn’t have enough money you wouldn’t just leave them on the street, you would figure it out. That’s probably a really bad analogy but I hope you get the jist.
I had an abortion 7 years ago and not a day goes by that I don’t regret it - I’m not saying that you will and I’m absolutely pro choice but i just think it’s worthwhile baring in mind the pain surrounding such a big decision.
If you had the baby you would be fine and you would have a baby! If you terminate then it’ll be tough but you’ll be ok xx

If everyone waited until they could afford a child most people would never have any.

If you are not 100% sure about termination then it may not be right for you. It is extremely tough having a baby young when you are in the middle of studies or early career but it is doable.

We had our 1st when we were 19 & 21 (I'm the older), I struggled to continue my studies due to cost and him being military. Eventually gave up my career to be a sahm, tbh wouldn't change that. He advanced his career and things got much better financially. So although the early years were tough it did improve and we're comfortable as a family of (soon to be) 8 and a dog. Only debt is our mortgage.

Hey OP, I know this post is a year old but I’m in a similar situation and I’m 23. H how is everything? Did you continue with your pregnancy? X