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Feeling a bit warm and fuzzy (and ready) about DH

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nellly · 18/06/2021 20:50

Dh loves football, and watching with mates. But tonight he is sat downstairs with a single beer and bowl of crisps and watching alone.
I didn't ask him to or even have to mention it but I'm pregnant with our first baby and he deemed it far too risky to go to a pub or crowded house party and risk bringing COVID home.
He's been a star since we found out, I haven't lifted a finger in 26 weeks and he's been enthusiastically reading the baby books and trying to learn.

I know it's probably the pregnancy hormones but he's such a good egg and I just wanted to vent

Feel free to tell me I'm being a soppy git

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nellly · 18/06/2021 20:51

Title should say (and teary)-

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romdowa · 18/06/2021 20:52

No harm in being soppy. My dp spent the first trimester getting up in the middle of the night to rub my back while I threw up. Cooked me food at any time I felt hungry and did all the housework. He has been so amazing the last 5 months that I feel blessed 😊😊 so I'm a big soppy one too

DingleyDel · 18/06/2021 20:54

Ah that’s so lovely. It’s makes a really nice change to read about a nice, decent H on MN!

2020mission · 18/06/2021 20:58

@nellly similar here my husband is watching the match at home and he's not even having a beer because I can't drink 😅 he's keeping drinking to whenever we are with family or friends for only social occasions. He's also been reading books and preparing. It's great to have good support isn't it?

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nellly · 18/06/2021 20:58

Ah all my vomiting seemed to take place during the day while he was at work and I was wfh so he escaped most of that

@DingleyDel 5 years ago I was in an awful relationship and got some really good advice on Mumsnet and got out with help of women's aid so I like to think I've now balanced it out with one sad thread and one happy thread lol

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SoMuchForSummerLove · 18/06/2021 21:00

The thing is, it's so lovely to have an actual partner in life.

My husband went to crazy lengths last week sorting things for my daughter's birthday party, and watching him I just felt so grateful, and lucky that my kids have him for a dad. He's my best decision.

Verbena87 · 18/06/2021 21:03

Loved reading this. Mine is just making herbal teas and then he’ll come up and do my second-to-last needle for our current ivf cycle. After doing bedtime with our toddler while I had a nap because fertility drugs are brutal.

It is lovely parenting with someone who gets it and helps and is kind. The best.

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nellly · 18/06/2021 21:05

Thanks all, glad I'm not the only one who gets all emotional seeing him being a good partner/Dad. We met a little older and he's said before he had doubted whether he would end up having a family so think now it's here he wants to do it really well

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LunaDreams · 18/06/2021 21:05

So nice to hear such a positive experience on here 😊. He sounds like a good egg!

Lemongrass9 · 18/06/2021 21:07

My DH is currently washing up during half time…it is so lovely to hear from those of us that are well supported.

@nellly so happy to hear you have found a nice partner after coming out of a bad relationship.

Enjoy your evening ☺️

rjacksmiss · 18/06/2021 21:07

What a good man. Happy wife happy life eh! ❤️

Inoknow · 18/06/2021 21:07

Enjoy it while it lasts 😃

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 18/06/2021 21:09

It nice to hear something positive about a DH on here, there do seem to be many bad ones!!!

My DH is currently sat on the couch next to me knitting a baby hat for our friend's bsby that is due this week. He's a good un too!

MaizeBlouse · 18/06/2021 21:09

Okay okay I'll join in too.

My DP is an amazing dad to our 2 boys. He really plays with them and we are completely equals and a united front on parenting and decision making. He is also very attractive and great in bed he has a really physical job but rushes home everyday and is straight in with the kids and always supports me with my freelance job by working extra hours so we don't have to fork out on childcare. He doesn't have any social media and is totally his own person. And he puts up with me so he's a saint for that alone!

Congratulations for your pregnancy OP!

MonkeyPuddle · 18/06/2021 21:10

Well that’s just bloody lovely! You’re growing his baby, your family, he’s right to take that responsibility seriously.

And I’ll tell you for nothing, you are going to melt when he loves that baby more than you thought possible. When DP holds our baby, rocks her and sings to her my heart skips a beat. There is nothing, nothing more attractive than seeing the person you love look at your child with pure love.

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nellly · 18/06/2021 21:12

So lovely to hear about all the other great DHs, keep the stories coming!
I do think people are naturally more likely to post for advice when things are bad so it's nice to have a thread full of nice stories.
And yes I can't wait to see him holding our baby

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catinthehat12 · 19/06/2021 08:44

This is a really sweet post. I am really glad you all have this support.
My first pregnancy, the hormones made me very impatient and snappy with my DH. Sadly, that pregnancy ended in miscarriage, but the support I had from him throughout that was incredible. I am pregnant again now, and obviously very worried, but I know that I can handle anything with him by my side. I am pregnant again, waiting to tell him tomorrow on father’s day, and I have had not had the impatience with him that I had last time, in fact I have felt a bit more loving and patient towards him.

Isadora2007 · 19/06/2021 08:47

@nellly it’s lovely to have a real partner in life so it’s great you’re appreciative of him as he is you.
@catinthehat12 how exciting for tomorrow thats sooooo cute. I have everything crossed for you to have a happy and healthy pregnancy. 💕

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nellly · 19/06/2021 08:57

@catinthehat12 he sounds great!! How exciting to tell him on Father's Day

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GummyBear91 · 19/06/2021 10:09

It's so nice to read lovely things about DHs!! So many of the posts are about negative things.

My DH has been wonderful throughout. So thoughtful and considerate, doing extra cooking, cleaning etc. He's painted most of the house in preparation so it's done for the next few years! We finished the nursery last week and I often find him just sitting in there. Makes me smile that he's as excited as I am about the new adventure coming up!

Keep up the lovely stories. Men aren't all that bad and get shamed so often. Mines a keeper!!

Taenia · 19/06/2021 10:15

Awww its lovely reading about all these wonderful partners :)

I feel my DH is wonderful and so supportive too.. if I'm feeling scared or anxious he goes out of his way to reassure me and try to make me feel better - even when I know he's terrified himself.

He gets up early every morning to make me breakfast in bed so I don't throw up with an empty stomach when I wake up.. he does all the cooking and cleaning pretty much and anything else that he thinks will set off my sickness. Has been reading to try to find things that will help and often comes home with a variety of different plain snacks he's heard might help me. He also has gotten up in the middle of the night to make sure I'm okay when being sick and has walked to multiple different shops in a day to find something I'm particularly craving :D

He's such a good one.. but also has been and it's great having a husband that can be so thoughtful and supportive. He wasn't sure he wanted kids initially and it was me who was more keen on them and he compromised with me. He's done so well and has become quiet excited. It's great being able to chat through thoughts on Baby items with him he's just so interested in everything.

I wouldn't have gotten through the first trimester as well as I did

Georgina125 · 19/06/2021 10:32

Aww, that is lovely. My DH has been very sweet during my current pregnancy (barring some disagreements about our cats). I will warn you though that, as the third trimester has progressed, I've felt more and more irritable for no reason so I struggle to hold onto the warm feelings now, even though I know I am being irrational!

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