Twelve week scan anxiety

[Isanam]

Hi ladies,

I have my 12 week scan this Monday after 2 failed pregnancies; one was a missed MC at 9 weeks (fetus stopped growing at 6+4) which was managed by MVA and the second was a PUL that never got resolved and treated with methotrexate. Due to my history I have been on progesterone this time from BFP to 16w and I feel this may have masked any MC I may have had. This is making me super anxious for my 12 week scan coming Monday. I have been very busy now for 4 weeks so didn't get around to thinking about it much but I am relatively free from today to Monday so can't stop thinking about it.
This pregnancy has been very different from my other two pregnancies; the last two were conceived on our first attempt whereas this one took 6 cycles. I have had quite strong pregnancy symptoms throughout, morning sickness including vomitting, which I barely had in the other two. We had a few investigations after the two failed attempts and they didn't find anything wrong with me or DH. All this is getting DH excited and he is thinking of pregnancy announcement ideas, whereas everything is making me very very nervous. I feel like I will be badly disappointing him in addition to losing a third pregnancy. Any suggestion to calm my nerves will be very helpful or any success stories after losses.

Hi OP I was in your exact position before my 12 week scan. Also my 3rd pregnancy after a ruptured ectopic & mc previously.

Scanxiety is real & I think after having losses we always fear the worst. I also had stronger symptoms with this pregnancy compared to the last 2. I did end up having some early scans so I'd seen the heartbeat but was convinced something was wrong before my 12 week scan.

Thankfully everything was perfect & I'm now almost 18 weeks, now got the 20 week scan worries

Fingers crossed all goes well for you!! x

I was exactly the same before my 12 week scan. I had recurrent MMC last year so totally understand how you feel. I had consultant scans every 2 weeks but still was crapping my pants before the 12 week scan but everything was fine

I am now waiting for my 20 week scan which is also on Monday and I feel the same anxious feelings as you!!
The only things I can say are, it's completely normal to be anxious about it. If you've had no bleeding or strong pains and you're saying your symptoms have been different, try to trust that your body is doing what it needs to do and everything will be OK.
I would suggest finding ways to relax, maybe listen to some meditation or do some antenatal yoga - both these can be found on YouTube for free. If that's not your thing, maybe book something fun for after your scan - a meal with your partner or a friend, maybe a hair cut or a pregnancy massage. It'll just give you something to look forward to.

There is a book called Pregnancy After Loss which is really amazing but might take a couple of days to arrive.

After that scan things do start to go a bit quicker, you're through the worst bit!!

Just wanted to say I'm also on progesterone and always thought it would mask a miscarriage too bevause it would stop the bleeding etc, but i actually bled this week, thankfully baby was ok but midwives said progesterone wouldn't stop a bleed. So the fact you haven't had any bleeding and have strong pregnancy symptoms sounds very positive. Good luck xx

Oh yes I missed that, I also was on progesterone and worried it would hide a MC but everything was OK

Thanks all! I managed to distract myself till today as my in-laws came for the weekend. Bless them! Another 15 hours of nervousness. Fingers crossed!

Congrats on this pregnancy! Given your history, I'm very surprise they didn't offer to do a viability scan at 7-8 weeks. After my 2nd MC, the EPU offered this to me in any future pregnancies.

You can certainly MC whilst on progesterone. Best of luck and update us how you get on x

Hi all, just a quick update: everything went well. Saw the fetus with a HB measuring 12w+4d (my calculations were 12w+2d). The NT measurements were 1.6mm so everything looks good. But the NT bloods are not back yet, hopefully all clear. Feels like almost out of the wood!

Fantastic news!

@Isanam God is great. Good to hear. At least that will calm the nerves. Have a 9 wk scan next wk. Had one at 6 all was good. Just praying that goes well and after that the 12 wk scan. So nervous due to previous mc. God is in control. 🙏

Aww lovely, glad it went well! 😊 x

Great news, congratulations 🎊

Thank you everyone! @iloveGod2 hope everything goes well for you. Fingers crossed!