Telling employer

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I’ll be 16 weeks next week and am intending to tell my boss then. Partly as it’s making me anxious and partly so he has time to decide what to do. It’s a small business and I manage the team so the impact will be significant but of course I’m not irreplaceable. How do you have these conversations? Just say it adding I’m telling you so you have time, or throw in other things about this not affecting ability etc? However you dress it up, it’s not good news for them, but want to do the right thing.

I put it off for as long as possible and was such a relief when I finally told them! I had a few bits to run through anyway so I took them in and said "this is xxxxx, this is xxxxx, oh and I'm pregnant" :-D

It was taken surprisingly well - I think you might be surprised, especially if they have children/grandchildren. It's such lovely news. x

I was anxious too but amazingly my company amended the mat leave policy from statutory to 3 months full pay when I told them! My situation is similar to yours with managing the team.

I wasn't worried about it at all to be honest. I just asked my manager if I could have a quick word one morning and said straight out, look just want to let you know I'm pregnant. She was really suprised and pleased for me. I was around 16 or 17 weeks too I think which is very late to be informing work in my profession (nurse).

I just said it quite matter of factly. Don’t say it as though you’re apologising, it’s not bad news and you’ve nothing to feel guilty about. I know my boss is quite practical and would be thinking about what she needed to do so I made that easy by telling her when I was planning to finish, how long I would have off, and that I’d be scheduling some time in for us to start the recruitment process for my backfill in the next few weeks.

You just say your pregnant and that’s it! Really don’t worry

Congrats

Thank you all.

_@TheMotherlode this sounds like how I will approach it. Thank you. I’m a planner and know I’ll be the one dealing with the recruitment which is fine. I just want to do the right thing for me and all concerned.

Yeah I work for a big company so slightly different but I just sent emails to the relevant people - not a big deal at all! I get your nerves but as long as you work for reasonable people then honestly think about it from the other way around - you wouldn't get angry about someone telling you they're pregnant

I did it. It went quite well. Told him I intended to come back after 9 months and he was happy about that and I would work with him on a plan. Thanks all. I just want to do the right thing and hate letting people down but women have babies and that’s life!