So fed up

[HornungTheHelpful]

Still have 9 weeks to go and so fed up. I’m huge, uncomfortable and can’t breathe properly or sleep. But there’s apparently nothing wrong with me. Have had two prior pregnancies that ended up being high risk and am starting to worry about this baby. Finally after a rubbish day at work, I’ve been told that I’m going to end up on a ward because the private rooms are being refurbed. Previous experiences on maternity ward - particularly last one - were hellish and a big part of the reason I decided to go private.

I know none of this is important in the grand scheme of things but I’m having a proper pity party. Anyone want to join?

Aww bless you 😞 I have the same to go as you still. I’ve been really lucky though and haven’t had anything too bad so far symptom wise.. beginners luck I think! 🙈 I’m absolutely dreading the hospital part of it. It’s not til I’ve been pregnant that I’ve realised why on earth would a ward be an acceptable place for people to be who a) have just given birth and will be feeling extremely exposed/vulnerable and b)for people who have newborn babies all crying at different times.. it makes no sense why they can’t make maternity wards with nice individual rooms and ensuites. Being able to hobble to your own private toilet should be the least of your concerns when you give birth! X

Thanks. Glad you’re not having too tough a time of it. I’m just frustrated because I tried so hard to make sure I was fit and healthy before I got pregnant this time and I still feel awful but for no apparent reason. I am mildly anaemic but that’s it. But I can’t walk my dogs to the end of the lane without stopping, I can’t sleep, if I so much as lay on my back to roll on to my side I feel like I’m going to both suffocate and throw up (I wasn’t overweight before I got pregnant and haven’t gained excessively so this seems grossly unfair). Apparently this is all normal. So why am I such a wimp?!

I’ll stop whining now. I know really I just need to focus on a good outcome

I'm with you OP. I was feeling particularly pathetic yesterday. I was trying to think of a body part that didn't hurt. I have swelling and carpal tunnel coupled with PGP so my entire body just aches. And I need a root canal but they won't give me one until I deliver. DH and I slept in different rooms for a few nights because I kept waking him. And I went to buy shoes yesterday, the store assistant had to put them on for me, I cried.

@PurBal aww no, feel your pain with the shoe situation 😂

@HornungTheHelpful we really don’t have too long to go. I’m trying to have everything organised then when it hits July I’m hoping it’s the home straight. I’m petrified of the birth, having a section because of this but also terrified I go before then 🙈 so part of me wants it to speed up, the other part is going to be full on panicking the closer it gets!

@PurBal, so sorry - I was a bit like that yesterday too (with a side order of vicious rage. Hope you are feeling better today.

@sarah13xx - thanks - I'm going to try to focus on getting stuff ready - not that we have too much to buy but still plenty of sorting to do. I like to feel useful. I have had two c sections (and having another this time); while my experience of induction, maternity wards and midwifery care have not been good, both c sections were very good, calm experiences, even the unplanned one.

I'm fed up too OP. 34+4 and just ready for this to be over. The birth hanging over my head, wondering how it will end up, wondering if that's a contraction or a gas cramp, wondering if those are my waters or if I have just wet myself a bit, wondering if it's ok when she goes quiet for a couple of hours, wondering how DS will react when we bring a baby home. I'm anaemic too and feel like shit but I can't sleep half the time.

It's so fucking boring all the worrying and waiting.

Poor you @JewelGarden! I really don't get the being utterly exhausted but not being able to sleep. It's so bizarre. You really don't have long to go though (though I know it feels like forever even when you get down to the last week or so). If it's any comfort, my DS was absolutely fine when we brought his sister home. Don't know what they will both be like this time!

Agree re the boredom. Even though it feels like I only have about 50% of one brain cell functioning I'm still bloody bored!

I'm 31+2 now. I was fine powerlifting and walking the dog despite spd but last week it hit me like a tonne of bricks and I feel like I'm falling apart now. Hubby is at sea so I have no help at all, 5 kids and dog to walk (can't wait for the school holls). DH's work are saying he'll be given minimal time off and be back at sea soon after birth too unless I end up with CS. Sleep went down hill once I hit the 3rd trimester, I nap a lot as I don't get a good solid sleep at night, the hip pain and this one is still doing somersaults. I thought it'd be a breeze after my last were huge twins but nope, maybe I'm getting too old for this pregnancy lark. I'm itching to have everything prepped but need hubby home to help out as I can't get in the loft!!

I can still manage to lace up shoes though, so I have that going for me. I could still do mine up right until birth with the twins though so will not admit defeat with a singleton lol.

@HornungTheHelpful that’s good to know, hope this one goes just as well 😊 I’m trying to give the house a proper deep clean and clear out this week so that the upkeep isn’t too hard over the summer, need to clear space for all this baby stuff 🙈 It’s helping give me something to do at least! Got a tick list on my notes of jobs to get through 😂