Pregnant 3.5 months after giving birth

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Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? If so, can I hear your stories as to how you coped, guilt? I'm petrified... this wasn't expected and not what we wanted so soon, so stories to tell DP would give us both some sort of relief!

Not 3.5 months but 6 months yeah. Still pregnant so can’t say what two babies close by in age is like but the guilt is real.
Everyday.

The bigger I get (27+1 today) the guilty I feel not running around and being as energetic with DS1 as I’d like to be.

I’ve noticed his bond with DP has grown which, whilst that obviously good, I can’t help but feel a bit jealous.

I know two other people also having babies close and they all say the exact same thing so congratulations and be kind to yourself because this will only be 9 months out of a lifetime of fun you will all have together. They won’t remember.

I got pregnant 6 months after my first
And tbh two close together I didn't find that bad, you quickly adapt
They are now 13 and 12yrs and the best of friends barring the odd squabble
I definitely don't regret it
Congratulations op don't be hard on your self xx

I’m currently 3 months pregnant and fell pregnant when my other baby had just turned 5 months old. It wasn’t unplanned though and I wanted them close. In my opinion there are a lot of positives to two babies so close together! When you say you feel guilty, people on the other end of the scale worry their children will have nothing in common and not play together with big age gaps! Growing up I would have loved a similar aged sibling. I’m not being unrealistic thinking it’s going to be easy but after a busy first few years I think in the long run having two at similar stages is a benefit! ☺️

I know this is hard for you but there are positives. Your eldest hopefully will be too young to get jealous. My sister is a year older than me and we had a lot of fun together growing up.

I had twins myself so I know it's not easy caring for two little people at the same time but they will be entertained by each other and wear each other out! Hope your pregnancy goes well.

If all goes well you will cope, not always easy but then all age gaps have their pros and cons.
I fell pregnant 3 month after having our twins via elcs, unfortunately I miscarried at 8wk though. Our 2nd was 5mth when I fell pregnant but that one also miscarried at 8wk, fell pregnant soon after though and had our 3rd when 2nd was 16.5mth old.
Never felt any guilt for having the gaps we have or number of children we have either, almost 31wk with our 6th atm.

Double congratulations!
Not me, but my friend fell preg 4 months after first.
She has never regretted it, they have grown up together and are the best of friends.
As pp there’s been no jealously, they always played lovely together when babies!
Any newborn stage is hard but her youngest just slotted in great!
I’d say the hardest part for her was at the back end of her pregnancy so she had help from parents towards the end.

Hey!

Exactly the same situation here. I had my 4th baby last august. Fell pregnant when he was 3 months old and a baby girl is due on his exact due date. I was petrified at first but as soon as I saw her on the scan I was head over heels. And now I’m excited. I know it will be hard work. But I can’t wait to meet her. Xx

Thankyou ladies. I feel more reassured. I know it'll be lovely for them both to be super close as my older sister and I are only really close (though there is 2.5 years between us so nothing like this age gap 😂).

If all goes well anyway..! I've only just found out so I am 4+3 at the moment! Feels like a lifetime ago being this early with my son and here I am at the start again. X

My neighbour had baby number two before number one was 1 year old. They then had another two years later. Only negative seemed to be they decided to stop at 3 instead of having four.

Not quite as close but mine are 15 months apart. And it's fab! Once they reached 3 & 4, life became a breeze! Holidays- they've got a playmate. Games, school fads, tech, bikes - all at fairly similar suitability.
Now 9 & 10 and are best friends who share a room (not out of necessity!) and are still nattering at bed time!