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Should I bring DH to booking in appointment?

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WestToEast · 11/06/2021 22:55

Pregnant for the first time, so not sure how these things normally work and even more so during Covid. I've got my booking in appointment in a week and a half. Is it advised or normal to take your partner with you? I don't want him to feel like he's missing out on any experience, as this is all new to him too, but equally don't want to be the one weirdo who brings her husband along if it's not the done thing. I realise there will be questions about his family history, but we've been together forever so I'm up to speed on all that. Does Covid prevent anyone from accompanying you?

Thanks!

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myotherusernameisonholiday · 12/06/2021 09:31

My dh came to booking in of dc1, but not dc2. He was asked stuff about his health as he has a rare genetic condition that could be passed on, so it was quite useful for that bit but mostly he didn't need to be there!

FrancesFlute · 12/06/2021 09:53

Can you ring them and ask? Every trust will have different rules at the moment.

Flutterby8 · 12/06/2021 10:14

I didnt take DH to my booking appointment and glad I didnt as well. It is just a ton of questions about your health, history of family medical conditions and whether your relationship is sound with no domestic violence.
Its alot of paperwork, a blood and urine check and you get handed your notes.
He wants to come to my next appointment though which I think is fine.

lilroo87 · 12/06/2021 10:20

Haven't taken my partner to any midwife appointment. They're not really that interesting for partners tbh, I recorded babies heartbeat so that he could hear it but other than that they're really not exciting enough, not like a scan. x

Dollywilde · 12/06/2021 10:24

I took DH as he has an extensive health history including childhood heart operations. Also he was excited and he wanted to! He didn’t come to anything else bar the first scan (and then covid hit when I was 18 weeks and that was that for him coming in!)

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with him going if he wants to, but check the covid rules with your local hospital.

I’d take him again next time if they don’t have everything from pregnancy 1 on record as I can’t remember all the technical details about his operations!

jellybe · 12/06/2021 11:10

I've done a mixture (three kids) DH came to the last one as I was feeling overwhelmed (surprise pregnancy) and felt I wanted him there. Did mean the MW followed me to the loo when I went to do my urine sample so she could ask me about DV but other than that she seemed fine with him being there.

Really it is up to you - as long as it is allowed due to covid.

Trinacham · 12/06/2021 11:31

My booking in appointment in a week or so is over the phone anybody else?

Katy4321 · 12/06/2021 11:49

My DP came to mine a few weeks ago and I think he liked being part of it. Yes lots of questions, but also friendly chat and advice, opportunity for him to ask questions. Maybe the midwife we had was more chatty, but I thought it good to have him there.
The hospital asked we do lateral flow tests before the appointment, and have the result ready to show on our phone. Partners were ask to wait down the corridor and pregant women have the waiting room (so people could space out). Mine found himself waiting outdoors near where new babies were being taken home - so I think that made it all a little more real for him!

lilroo87 · 12/06/2021 12:53

@Trinacham yes mine was over the phone but then saw midwife the week after for bloods and urine.

statetrooperstacey · 12/06/2021 15:36

If you know all his info then no need to take him. However when I had my babies at every booking in appt I left with a shit load of stuff including the ‘big purple book’ and the bounty freebies or vouchers so we found them quite exciting, might just be me getting excited about tiny samples of sudocrem though! Also the samples got a lot less over the years😞😁

BinkyRidesForth · 13/06/2021 11:48

I had mine on Thursday and DH came with me, I was glad he was there - first time for us so it was exciting despite the form filling and made everything feel a bit more real, I wouldn’t have wanted him to be left out. It was good to have another person to go through the forms with as well and wanted to double check the bits about his family history with him although I think I could have answered them. There was also a lot of info to take in so glad to have someone else listening to it! We didn’t need to take a lateral flow test or anything, just kept masks on throughout.

CheshireSplat · 16/06/2021 07:20

That's good to know! (That they are careful to ask next time.)

Chanel05 · 16/06/2021 08:13

In my area they come to your house and my dh was there both times. They have no need to be there though.

HoppingPavlova · 16/06/2021 08:34

I had my first coming up roughly 25 years ago. Even then they specified no partners at the booking appointment. They went through domestic violence questions and other things such as any previous abortions/miscarriages/pregnancies/children that I’m guessing the odd person would not answer correctly if their partner was sitting there. I had no skeletons in the closet but recall there was a spiel that it was confidential and would never be disclosed to partners etc.

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