Misscarriage what to expect

[FinnsMammy]

Hi girls I went for a scan today at 10 weeks due to spotting and was told the baby died a week ago and to expect to miscarry soon... I’m not at home as I’m at my husbands house in Northern Ireland and I’m so scared I dunno what to expect . Can anyone tell me if they had a misscarriage at this stage in pregnancy and it passed naturally what to expect ? I’m so scared I will Pass a tiny baby. I will get a d&c when I get hone to the Republic of Ireland if I need to next week but I can already feel pains coming on .... the doctor told me what to expect but to be honest I was so upset abd numb that I heard nothing ... thanks girls xx

So sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 7 weeks and it happened very quickly over the course of a day. The bleeding became heavier and heavier and intense cramping (contractions) happened until the foetus passed. Once that happened the pain stopped pretty much immediately and the bleeding became more like a normal period, but just lasted longer. Look after yourself, allow yourself to grieve however you need to. Sending hugs to you, it’s a very difficult emotional time xx

Thank you @RobinsEggBlue it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one to go through this. I haven’t really got any signs yet like cramping or anything so I’ll see how I go I might have to get a D&C next week when I’m home. I’m still in shock but I know I will get through this!

Hi darling, sorry you going through this.
I have miscarried in August 2019, at 12 weeks.
It started with terrible cramps on Saturday morning pretty much as period one. In the evening I started to bleed, I knew deep down that's it, because it was a weekend I had to wait till Monday to see my midwife and have a scan, as I was told when I called them on Sunday morning. They booked me for Monday morning to have scan, I went with my fiancé. While I was waiting in waiting room, had to go to the toilet before scan, I passed my tiny baby there in the hospital toilet. It was the worst feeling ever.
I cried a lot, allow yourself to do that. I remember crying suddenly even at work after 2-3 weeks.
Anyway I have a one year old healthy boy now, I got pregnant straight away after miscarriage (you have to be ready mentally, I was) and pregnancy was healthy without any problems.
Good luck, it will get better.xx

I'm so sorry

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and did it at home. From the point I started spotting and passing small clots it took a week until the miscarriage started in full force. Then it was all over in about 8 hours - very very heavy bleeding passing large clots painful cramping (as you effectively go into a sort of labour) flooding a sanitary towel every 15 mins or so. The worst bit probably lasted about 2 hours until the sac was passed and then everything slowed down and I just had heavy "period" type bleeding for about 5 more days

Oh I'm so sorry for your loss.
It might be sensible for you to go home today to prepare and be near your own doctor and hospital. In my experience miscarriages are really painful although everyone is different of course. Make sure you have plenty of pain relief available.

Thanks everyone you have all been so kind it’s so comforting to know I’m not going through this alone even though it feels like that. I just want it to start so it can all be over.@jaibaha this is my second MC in a row I miss carried early almost 5 weeks on April 1 then I got pregnant straight away with this baby. I so desperately wanted a sibling for my son so as soon as I can I will try again. I went into this pregnancy very cautious and I feel like the next one I won’t relax until I have a baby in my arms. I will try again though I know what the reward is with my son so I’ll keep going but it’s so hard and raw I never really imagined it would be this hard. My pregnancy with my son was pretty perfect and I feel like this has robbed me of my innocence when it comes to pregnancy but I guess I just need to soldier on. Thank you all so much I’ll let you know how I go I’m really hoping I don’t see a tiny baby pass I think this will be worst feeling in the world.xx

@JewelGarden thanks I need to stay until Sunday we came up here for a christening and I don’t want to leave until we attend it I know it’s going to be so hard to attend a christening of a new baby knowing mine is lying dead in my stomach but I just feel this is something I need to do. I just cannot wait to get home to my own bed to be alone to grieve.

It'll be good to get home when you can then. You will probably feel and see the sac passing but if you don't want to see anything that could be your baby don't look too closely. You could wrap it up in tissues, put it in a little box and maybe bury it with a forget me not in a pot outside, or visit the coast and send it out to sea. Whatever gives you closure

@FinnsMammy look after yourself. I hope the christening isn’t too hard for you, it can feel like everyone has a baby when you have lost one, just take each day as it comes

Thanks girls @jewelsgarden that’s a lovely idea. @RobinsEggBlue this is so true life is just so unfair sometimes x

Hi girls I just wanted to post an update here for anyone that comes across this thread as I know I was so scared of what to expect. So on Monday I called the hospital and booked in a scan for Friday to give me time to try and miscarry naturally I had nothing but slight spotting at that stage so I drank 3 cups of raspberry leaf tea and went for a long walk that night I started cramping and passed a few medium sized clots and quiet alot of blood over the space of maybe 2 hours it was painful but nothing more than strong period cramps for me (after I had taken 2 ibuprofen) . Today Tuesday I woke up and passed one more clot and that was it really so I drank some more raspberry leaf tea and went for another walk when I came back from my walk I went to the toilet again and sorry if TMI but I passed the baby this was quiet distressing in that moment but comforting to know the worst was over. If this is my miscarriage experience then I consider myself to be very fortunate. On Friday I have a scan so I’m hoping they tell me it’s a complete miscarriage and nothing more to do. I will keep you all updated.Fingers crossed! For anyone reading this and going through the same thing please don’t be scared you are strong and you can and will get through this. X thanks ladies for all your love and support ! X

@FinnsMammy I’ve been thinking of you. I’m so sorry you’ve had this experience but like you say the worst is over now. I took a couple of weeks off work as I felt really sad and shaky. Make sure you look after yourself and take it easy. Your body has been through a lot

Thank you @RobinsEggBlue unfortunately I just started a new job so I’m not in the position to take any time off but if I’m honest I need the distraction. I’m still bleeding pretty heavy every day but I have a scan tomorrow so really hoping all is out and I can move on ! Still hard to believe I’m no longer pregnant but this was just not the right time for me. Thanks again for all your support ! Xx

Hey girls just an update I had my scan today and luckily everything seems to be gone so a complete miscarriage naturally I’m so glad i don’t need a D&C and I can move on now! Thanks again for all your support xx