Do I know the sex now??

[Danxoie]

Hello!

I'm 29 weeks, decided not to find out the sex. I was at the hospital today for reduced movements(everything was fine in the end). The midwife that saw me kept saying 'she'. I didn't have a scan so she couldn't of seen anything and I'm not sure whether they put it on notes or not? Is there a possibility she has seen it on my notes maybe or do you think she was just saying 'she' instead of having to call the baby 'it'?

I've seen people say a few times that no medical professional ever writes down the sex of a baby anywhere so maybe just their preferred way of referring to baby albeit not great for you...

Midwives often switch between "he" and "she" and after seeing one get an absolute bollocking from a patient for referring to her baby as "it" I can understand why... I honestly wouldn't give it a second thought OP. They called my baby she when I was hospitalised recently, I know he's a he.

Yes, it’s just instead of it. The sex of your baby isn’t recorded as it has no medical relevance.

If I haven't seen/been told baby's gender I automatically refer to them as 'they' (I work in the field). I suppose 'she' could be automatic for somebody else though? I see how it could be. I think it's safe to say you still don't really know 🤷🏻‍♀️

They used to use "he" as the default, until people took umbrage... They can't bloody win!

I think it was to avoid calling the baby 'it'.

Side note, for some reason I read the title of this thread and automatically imagined someone who spoke English as a second language asking this right after dtd for the first time.

It’s not wrote down op.
When I went in to have my DS midwife asked what I was having/if I knew

Thanks for everyone's replies. I really dont mind anyway, the surprise is more added bonus at the end for us, at the time I was more bothered about baby just being okay. The only reason I asked was because wasn't sure whether to tell my partner baby was a girl haha!

Thanks again.

@Danxoie Definitely not written down 😊 most midwives etc naturally say either he or she. I had both throughout my pregnancy 😊

I was 100% convinced I was having a boy from the minute I saw the positive test. Wanted it kept a surprise until birth. Went for a private scan at 30 weeks so DH could finally see baby (during covid) and she flashed all the details up on the screen - all my details then baby’s position, gestation etc and at the end it said “Sex-Female”. I was fuming because I’d specifically said I didn’t want to know. But also SO confused because I just KNEW I was having a boy 🙈🤣🤣

Turns out he was indeed a boy 🤷🏻‍♀️ No idea what the private scan was all about unless it was my sex but that seems weird 🤣

@KM38 wow that's amazing!! And your gut instinct was right too!!!🥰

I was convinced I'd seen boys parts at my 30 week scan and thought I'd ruined it for myself but I definitely didn't because I had DD 10 weeks later! God knows what I was looking at

KM38

Sex - female, that would have been YOUR sex 😂.

As men often have ultrasounds for various reasons too, lots of people get confused by this.

@Sleepyquest

I was convinced I'd seen boys parts at my 30 week scan and thought I'd ruined it for myself but I definitely didn't because I had DD 10 weeks later! God knows what I was looking at

My friend done this! She thought her DD leg was a penis 😂

@bubblebath62636

KM38

Sex - female, that would have been YOUR sex 😂.

As men often have ultrasounds for various reasons too, lots of people get confused by this.

@bubblebath62636 🤣 I know that lol. Had it been an NHS scan, I wouldn’t even have questioned it because I’d expect them to have lots of male patients too. But it was specifically in a private maternity scan facility and was listed at the end of the section all about the baby’s position, placenta position etc 🤣