Bridesmaid and pregnant

[Optimistic2021]

Hi,

Just looking for some opinions! I have recently found out that I pregnant however I am due to be a birdemaid soon at my friends wedding. At the hen I should be around 8 weeks and 11 at the wedding, I don't know whether to tell her or not!?

I suffered a miscarriage in my last pregnancy around 6 weeks so just taking each day at a time and hoping for the best 🤞

My dress currently fits however I feel bad for not being able to drink at the hen and feel if I tell her why she will understand but also don't want to jinx it and tell her too early incase something goes wrong!

Advice please! Thanks 😊

Just tell her why you can't drink at the party. Ask her to keep it to herself. Getting pissed is for saddos anyway.

Hope all goes very well.

I think in this case it’s probably best to tell her. If you usually drink it would be obvious you weren’t and most people usually jump to the conclusion you’re pregnant anyway. So she could help you hide it from others. Understand not wanting to jinx it though - maybe if you got a private scan around 7 weeks and waited until then.

My bridesmaid was in almost exactly this scenario for my hen/wedding. She didn't tell me but I guessed! I didn't mind at all, but perhaps would have preferred her saying something to me. That said, I respected it was up to her to tell me when she was ready - it wasn't a big issue. If you're comfortable telling her, I probably would to save any confusion as it will be probably be fairly obvious to her.

In a bridesmaid and at the hen I will be 11 weeks and 13 at the wedding, I have already told her, as she’s my best friend and would 100% find it strange that I’m not drinking, however I feel so much better now she knows, and she’ll help me cover up the lack of drinking at the hen, no one else needs to know.
I have booked a private scan next week when I’ll be 9+4 for reassurance before the hen/ wedding.

It’s completely up to you if you want to tell her - she’s not entitled to know but it could make things easier for you.

Everyone is different but I definitely wasn’t showing at 11 weeks, if anything my boobs were bigger and my stomach might look bloated but this happens too during certain times of the month if you’re not pregnant and a brides maids dress should not be so tight that it can’t handle this change.

Thank you 😊 I think I will tell her so she can help me cover up the no drinking 😂 she knows we are trying anyway so it probably won't be a massive surprise x