Pregnant with second child but can't work out how I feel

[mummyh2016]

This is a wanted baby, DD is 4. We had been trying since xmas and got a bfp 2 weeks ago, I'm 6+1.
Only thing is I can't work out how I feel. I don't feel excited like I did with DD, I feel a bit apprehensive. I don't know if it's because I feel like something is going to happen and it won't be a successful pregnancy? There is no real reason that I should be worried, I have no history of miscarriage plus I am suffering with nausea so the pregnancy symptoms are there. I feel like DH feels the same, we rarely discuss the fact that I'm pregnant and it feels like a bit of an elephant in the room.
I know I'm really early, so it's not as though it's all we're going to talk about.

Has anyone else felt like this and basically is it normal?

I feel similar to you. I'm 8 weeks with a desperately wanted second baby and I feel really anxious something will go wrong, for no real reason ie. No history of miscarriage but feel like I can't enjoy it or look forward at the moment. I think I've heard lots of friends that have experienced loss so it feels like the numbers are so high. Not much advice but I'd say it's normal to feel this way as lots of hormones and changes to come!

It’s normal I think
I had this too
I was worried I’d never love a second as much as my first but I did! Now expecting no. 3!

I think it's really normal. I'm now 27 weeks with number 2 and like you, number 1 is 4.
I had an ectopic in between, which made it hard to accept that this pregnancy was "ok" until I got past the 12 week mark. But there is also less time to focus on the pregnancy and think about how it will be because you have another child to consider!
I also feel a lot of trepidation about going from an easy life where we get a full night's sleep and nice long nursery days whilst I work from home back to nappies, broken sleep, starting school... it's going to be a whirlwind for sure!!
But as I'm more pregnant, my daughter talks about the baby and how she is going to look after him/her and I can't wait to see her little family grow. It's just scary giving up that independence we've won back!

Thank you, you have all put my mind at ease! Part of me keeps thinking are we making a massive mistake having a second however I'm an only child and have always said I wanted more than one child. I think it is the worry of how much our lives will change is playing a massive part in how I'm feeling. I do feel DD is spoilt so I am dreading how she will be.

I can completely relate to this. I fell pregnant the same month we even discussed it, so almost feels rushed even though I do want this baby. Hopefully it'll feel more real and exciting once we've had the scans, announced etc but you're definitely not alone x

I relate too and I think its pretty normal. Like @sillybry there is a lot of trepidation as life is settled with DC1, and it feels like we are rocking the boat and jumping into the unknown again.

I never imagined having only one child but it doesn't make it less scary! Week 6 was also pretty bad for me, lots of changing hormones at that time, it took me a bit longer to get excited! Take care x

I’m 14 weeks with #2 and go from moments of bliss to….what am I doing? Why did I do it this early? How am I going to cope? DD will have just turned 2 when new baby arrives and this was a planned pregnancy!!

I’m glad I’m not the only one. I like to think most people feel this way about subsequent pregnancies after #1!

Congratulations

I’m the same, so glad there are others. My son will be 4 when this baby arrives and I’m 11+5 now. I have feelings of ‘wtf have we done?!’ But I also think as you already have one, you know SO much more. So much more about the risks of pregnancy, friends have had MC, and you know how difficult parts of parenting can be!
I think baby 1 is the lovely ignorance is bliss - you have all these ideas and you don’t realise half of it is not gonna happen, and now with baby 2, I wonder how we’ll cope when we get sleep, we don’t need nappies and he can tell me what he wants.

Above all my want for him to have a sibling is greater but I do share the same worries. When theh get here it’ll be as if they slotted in (I hope) and I always read it’s harder to go from 0-1 than 1-2