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New baby, GM visiting & covid isolation - WWYD?

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FTM91 · 03/06/2021 10:46

Due to my mum living in another country I haven't seen her in over 18 months.
Understandably she's desperate to visit once baby is born and will probably come when he is 3 or 4 weeks old (late July/early august). At the moment she would need to isolate for 5 days on arrival (she will do the early test to release thing)
She's had both jabs and is asking if she can isolate with us.
I'm hesitant as me, DH and baby are unlikely to even have had first jabs by then, so even though she is protected, we are not. However I understand she is desperate to see us after so long and feel mean saying no, especially as the vaccine supposedly reduces the risk of passing it on (I think but it's hard to find information on this)
If she does, she will need to properly socially distance from us while in the house until she gets the all clear and I know she will want to pick up/cuddle baby etc and likely be upset with me for not letting her. (Fully prepared to stand my ground on that by the way....I'm the one that's been growing this baby for 9 months but I know it will cause aggro)

Anyway just wondered how others would handle this?

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dementedpixie · 03/06/2021 10:51

I thought they had to pay to stay in a hotel and can't just isolate with family

dementedpixie · 03/06/2021 10:54

Just checked and that's for red list countries so ignore me

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2021 10:57

Do you have the space for her to stay in her room for 5 days? Who's going to be coming and cleaning up after her with a brand new baby? Is she actually going to stay in there?

Is tell her no. The point of isolation is to protect you, you're not protected if she's wandering around the house trying to touch the baby

FTM91 · 03/06/2021 21:11

Yeah there's no way she'll stay in a room for 5 days! I'll just have to stand firm, unless rules change beforehand

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otterbaby · 03/06/2021 21:21

We had a very similar situation and my parents ended up staying with us to isolate. However, my baby was 6 months at the time. I would've been much much more hesitant with a newborn. Also, 3/4 weeks old is still a mental time with a new baby and I would've hated having to deal with houseguests at the same time. I know it's your mum but I would have still felt like I needed to tidy/cook/make sure she's comfortable when really all of your energy needs to be spent on you and your new baby!

Moonshine11 · 03/06/2021 21:26

Seems easier to have her isolate else where then there’s no temptation.
You aren’t catering to her needs so to speak as she can’t leave a room etc.
So I think seems fairer and better for everyone that way.
Will be hard but for the best interests.

User0ne · 03/06/2021 21:44

Id say no.

How would she feel if she passed Covid to you/DH/DC? The risk is small but the consequences for a small baby can be serious.

Do you want to take that risk? Does she want to take it?- if she does that tells you a lot

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