Slow miscarriage experiences?

[Mum2baby07]

I feel I’m in no mans land. Last scan showed baby isn’t growing as expected (measuring under 6 wks when I thought I was 8) and no detectable heartbeat yet. I have had brown discharge - not lots but every time I wipe and shows on a panty liner - for well over a week and my pregnancy symptoms are now very mild but I have no red/pink blood and no pain. The scan showed no reason for the bleed at the time. I’m wondering how long it will be until I start to miscarry fully - anyone with any experiences to share? I’m due a follow up scan in 6 days so can ask then but it’s getting me down as it doesn’t seem to be progressing anywhere unlike all the stories I’ve read and I feel I can start the grieving process until it does.

Sorry should have said I can’t grieve til it starts properly…. Typo alert!

I'm so sorry. For me it was brown gritty discharge for a day or two, and after the last scan and they said it wasn't viable, I started bleeding a few days after. Hope you're okay. The waiting around was really horrible

For me it started with small bit of brown now and again, could feel my boobs weren't as sore, then I started to get red heavy clots, unfortunately had a miscarriage at approx 8 weeks, hope all works out ok for you

Hi,

Hope you’re keeping ok.

Around 3 weeks ago I noticed brown spotting when wiping and was sent to the EDU and they said it was probably nothing as signs all looked positive so they booked a scan for the following day. I thought I was 8 weeks and had noticed I no longer felt pregnant as my boobs was no longer sore. Shortly after being sent home I actually had lots of clots and bleeding so ended up going back in again and told me they thought I had MC but would need scan to be sure. The scan showed the baby was around 5 weeks with no detectable heartbeat and was told to go back a week later and they confirmed I had lost the baby. They thought it had already past but last 2 weeks have had brown spotting and I think it only passed on Thursday this week.

I hope you manage to get some answers at your next scan. X

My stories probally not the best story but my body didn't or couldn't miscarry, my baby stopped growing at 9 weeks some bleeding around 12 weeks, had to wait till 13 weeks for a scan to show baby was still there, was giving the tablets to have a medical miscarriage some more bleeding but not an awful lot a week later a scan showed baby still hadn't come away and I have to have a surgical managed miscarriage. I wouldn't wait 6 more days I would ring and ask can they give you something to help your body, I'm so sorry for your loss 💕💕

It’s torture isn’t it.
Unfortunately it took 5 weeks for mine to complete.
That was my first. Like yours, slow bleeding for weeks.
For each miscarriage after that I went for medical management so tablets.
Needed it over, couldn’t go through that again.
I’d recommend speeding things up for your own well being and mental health.
All the best x

I’m sorry. Ten weeks later I still hadn’t miscarried naturally and ended up needed surgical management. However, with another miscarriage, the first sign was bleeding. Unfortunately they are just really unpredictable.

So sorry op. I'm going through this now too. Started to get a little blood at 10 weeks, had a gut feeling everything wasn't right so booked a private scan which showed baby measuring behind and no heartbeat. They tried to pass it off as I'd got my dates wrong which wasn't helpful. Anyway EPU need to scan me twice before they can consider medical management or surgical. Dr confirmed my cervix is closed so looks like my body isn't going to let me miscarry naturally. Although that could happen they said it could take days to weeks. Feel like I'm in limbo, in pain and blood when I go to the toilet but cervix closed and not enough bleeding to pass the baby. Dr at the hospital was lovely though and prescribed pain relief and said I can admit myself to the ward whenever.

Thanks for all the messages - it’s so helpful to hear of other similar experiences
@kerbearr EPAU has advised they need to see a scan with no progression and /or no heartbeat but fetal pole over 7mm before they will confirm a non-viable pregnancy and allow me medical intervention. This is because I’ve progressed on each scan to date but not as quick as I ought. However you’re right (and @imaginethemdragons) I am struggling mentally bow so if it continues not to progress naturally I will be asking for medical intervention at my next scan. Trying to keep working like this is the hardest part but luckily I’m on leave now until next scan so hoping that helps.

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 I’m hoping mine starts soon like yours as this waiting is agony and @19annie86 can you recall how long between your brown bleed and heavy bleed at all - was it over a week like me?
@AZ1992X and @im2sad I’m so sorry for your losses. @im2sad, I hope you get some relief soon as being in pain all the time as well as bleeding must be torture. My saving grace is no pain at all so far.

Much love to you all and thank you so much for your replies xx

I had a tiny bit of brown, then mayb a week later, tiny bit brown, thought it was normal, then roughly week later had brown on the monday and by Tuesday evening red clots, I really hope u r ok and everything works out ok

I am so sorry for your lost! I had a mmc in November. The baby stopped around 5-6weeks, I started to bleed on week 8. First it was only spotting for days (4-5) it only turned darker red with clots after. I was expecting a lot of pain, however I only had it for a day (with hot water bottle made it manageable) I kept bleeding/ spotting for a week after with very mild pain. All together, the bleeding was less than my period, probably as I was bleeding for 2 whole weeks altogether.

I’m so sorry OP, I’m going through very similar at the moment, too small sac and yolk at 7 weeks but at 8 weeks they wouldn’t confirm a miscarriage because it had grown and developed the fetal pole but still measured 2 weeks behind with no heartbeat. I’m back next week for another scan and will be having the medical management if they confirm it’s a MMC. Like you, I’m totally consumed by it and can’t think about much else.

I went through this in Nov and waited for it to happen naturally but it didn’t so I ended up having medical management then too. Once it was confirmed, I just wanted it over with and hated it being prolonged.

Sending you all the best, it really is awful walking around in this limbo not knowing whether to think of yourself as pregnant or not.

@Mum2baby07 I am very sorry to hear about your pregnancy. My body miscarriaged naturally nearly five weeks after the pregnancy stopped, but once it started the process it was quick and not very painful.

Sorry OP. I had a scan at 9 weeks showing a 5 week pregnancy, bleeding like a heavy period but with clots for about a week, then that stopped for a few days, then another 2 weeks of heavy period-like bleeding with clots, so it took a few weeks for me. If you are miscarrying, make sure you have some fairly heavy duty pads just in case you do bleed heavily.

Gosh it's very sad that so many of us are going through this right now but also comforting that I'm not alone.
It's good to know that some of you had little pain, I'm expecting the worse as I'v been given codeine.
I know that this pregnancy is over but I'm still questioning whether I should be being careful with my food choices etc.

@im2sad I read lots of stories about people being in pain last time and really worked myself up into a state but actually in the end, for me anyway, it was no worse than period pain. I had all the strong painkillers ready but paracetamol was enough.

I’m still being careful with food choices until I know 100% it’s over. Feels like an extra kick having to do that doesn’t it.

I had similar in April, my brown spotting when wiping began on exactly 8 weeks, I had it for a week and a half when I had an early scan that confirmed I was measuring 6 weeks with no heartbeat. They also told me they couldn’t confirm a miscarriage as I hadn’t had a previous scan and it could just be my dates are wrong (but I knew they couldn’t possibly be), so they booked me in for another scan a week later. I miscarried fully before that next scan so in total about 2 weeks since the brown spotting started. Once the red blood and clots started, it was over within a few days.
Sorry for your loss.

@im2sad Knowing that so many women were or had been going through the same made me feel less "alone". I was also very scared about it because all the horror experiences I read online. In my case I started with period pain before going to bed. I woke up in the middle of the night with a very heavy bleeding and I called the hospital, as I was not sure if it was sth tto be expected or should I worry. I was told to go in. In the 15min between the phone call and me leaving the house, the sac and many clots passed out. In the hospital they only need to clean my cervix. I slept there and a scan next morning confirmed that the miscarriage was complete. I was released and I only had bleeding like a light period for six days. It was totally different from what I had imagined. Wishing you the best.

Your stories are all helping me feel less alone so thank you ladies! It’s makes me sad though to think how many of us suffer so much in our quest to have our babies….

@louloulemons I can’t believe how similar our situation seems. I feel it’s inevitable what will happen but until my next scan I too am still not drinking, taking my pregnancy vitamins, avoiding caffeine etc and I’m not even sure why. I guess it just feels right to me. If you ever want to chat please PM me.
@catinthehat12 thank you for sharing this has helped me know what’s happening to me is ‘normal’. Currently on day 11 of brown discharge so it might take a few more days yet. I may even make my Friday scan which I think I’d rather as then I can choose how to treat my miscarriage. I have my DD off for half term now and don’t really want her to see me suffer if it carries on being so drawn out. Hoping the lack of pain is a good sign and when and however it happens it’s relatively painless as some of you have described.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I had a missed miscarriage last christmas- found out at our 12 week private scan that there just wasn't anything there. We'd stopped growing at 6 weeks and my body just carried on as if I was still pregnant, the only sign was that my symptoms ebbed away around 8-9 weeks. We went home to our parents straight after and it was a horrible few days of waiting to know whether we'd miscarried or not, whether we'd confused our dates, as the private clinic was hesitant to say whether we'd MC'd. Looking back it was really clear we had, so when to spoke to the nurse at the hospital over the phone and she told me how it was, I was just grateful, so I could accept it and grieve.

What she said that was strangely common was that often the body doesn't release the pregnancy because our brains haven't accepted it. As soon as we know we've lost the baby, it's like our body goes into action. She told me to ring if I hadn't bled by the following week (it was an awkward time as it was just before Christmas), but I ended up starting to bleed on Christmas eve of all days. I was grateful I passed the pregnancy naturally as I'm not sure I could have mentally managed an intervention; I was able to do it privately and quietly at home. But it was such a strange thing, once my brain accepted it, my body responded. Everything passed within 10-14 days and at the scan at the hospital she was able to see there was no internal problems that had caused it.

People say all sorts of things to comfort you but it never really feels right, so I won't tell you it's not meant to be, or better now than later. I'm sorry you're in that time of waiting, not knowing whether to grieve or not. It's the worst part. But know our bodies are amazing and coping, and so are you. We're made of strong stuff, us, and even when we don't feel like it, we can get through anything.

I wish you the best of luck

*Oh, and just for some hope, we fell pregnant rather quickly afterwards- we intended to wait!- and now I'm 18 weeks and looking healthy. I carry my MC with me every day and it's been a struggle. I'll never forget it. It's a part of our journey, if indeed that's what's happening. Lots of respect and love to you. x

[quote louloulemons]@im2sad I read lots of stories about people being in pain last time and really worked myself up into a state but actually in the end, for me anyway, it was no worse than period pain. I had all the strong painkillers ready but paracetamol was enough.

I’m still being careful with food choices until I know 100% it’s over. Feels like an extra kick having to do that doesn’t it.[/quote]
This was me, too. Even when I knew we'd lost it, I didn't drink over Christmas until New Years Eve where I might have made up for it a little too much. Nobody can prepare you for how you deal with something like this. You do what you can. x

What I will say is passing mine was not like period pain- initially it was, but then it intensified and came on in very strong waves that I was told later were contractions. This is not something I expected. You see this stuff on telly or movies, and it all seems to happen quickly and without much pain, but mine really reached a peak and it made me vomit. I used up-breathing (ironically) which helped to a point but my emotions got the better of me and It was hard to manage until it was just, over. It's different for everyone though x

So sorry op :( i was supposed to be 13 weeks and started with brown discharge for a day or 2. Went to the EPU and they said pregnancy hadn't progressed past 4 weeks, so in my instance i beleived i was pregnant for 8 or 9 weeks after things had gone wrong, it just took that long to start bleeding. I bled for about 6 days or so, like pp said i had a c section with my son so never gave birth naturally but the miscarriage felt like what I'd imagine the start of labor to feel like. It also made me almost vomit. Fell pregnant again 4 months later, currently 5 months along

Hello Ladies, I have just come across this post and just thought I would reach out about what's happened to me.
I have two children from a previous relationship. Youngest is eight years old.
Me and my partner have been trying since 2017 and couldn't conceive naturally so we went down the IVF route in 2020 during the pandemic. My partner has no biological children of his own. The IVF was successful and we found out a few days before Christmas. All was well and I had pregnancy symptoms although the nausea was mild. At our scan at 8 weeks unfortunately there was no heartbeat. I was in the scanning room alone as my partner had to wait in the car. I felt sick and couldn't take it all in and asked for them to repeat the scan so I could see for myself. I needed hard facts and I needed them to be clear and accurate. I was in there for 45 minutes, alone whilst they contacted the EPU. When I got to the car I had to break the news to my eager and excited partner. We cried the whole way home. I ended up having two surgical procedures as the first one didn't work. The first surgery I was waiting 12 hours and started to miscarry on a hospital bed in the reception area of the ward so could hear other women and phone calls etc! Awful. Second surgery was better and I fully recovered within a week with no bleeding.
In April we magically became pregnant naturally! I couldn't believe it, I was convinced I couldn't have any more children naturally after having an emergency C-section with my youngest daughter. I thought my tubes were blocked...obviously not. This pregnancy was going well, good signs and symptoms but nausea was still only mild compared to the two pregnancy's with the children I have but presumed all pregnancies are different. We painfully waited for our 12 week scan (although I knew I was only 8w6days due to late ovulation) and I sat again in the waiting room alone because my partner had to wait in the corridor until I was called in. We got into the room and and the sonographer popped out quickly to fetch my notes and we hugged each other and said 'we will always have each other no matter what' and then the sonographer took over. She asked me how I was and I said nervous as I've had a MMC in January. I put my hands over my eyes and my partner rested his hand on my shoulder. She commented on how full my bladder was and said she will be quite for a minute. Well that minute felt like five and I opened my eyes and looked at the screen. The foetus was so still and no visible heartbeat so I knew that this was happening again. She asked me to go to the toilet and she would get another sonographer and do an internal. When I came back and started to undress I just looked at my partner and said 'here we go again' and yes, internal scan confirmed another mmc at 7w5d. I have surgery booked for Thursday and have had to cancel going to my sisters baby shower because I just cannot face it. Why is this happening!!? I have had two children and yet we just cannot sustain a pregnancy. I am speaking to my dr on Monday as I would like to have my thyroid checked and my FSH levels. Has anyone gone on to have a successful pregnancy after two miscarriages and did they find anything that supported you, ie meds? Thanks for listening. Just writing this down is helping me grieve and feel less alone xxx

Hi sorry so many people are going through this. I had a early scan at 7 weeks, where we seen the heartbeat, but since Sunday I have been having brown bleeding every time I wipe, occasionally pink and red, I also started having pains today. Went to A&E but don't have another scan till Thursday, feel like I might go crazy before Thursday with the unknown. I also have zero pregnancy symptoms which is making to think the worst even more.