Dreaming my baby died after twin passed.

[francesca745]

I'm 24 weeks pregnant , I was having identical twins however twin A passed away from ImSelected growth restriction at 18 weeks. I'm starting too have dreams that my surviving twin also died and I wake up crying and scared and can't sleep until I feel him kick. I have an anterior placenta so baby sometimes will kick and I won't feel it but I normally do feel it if I'm laying down. Is this normal, I cried so hard this morning terrified.

Aw I'm sorry, this must be so hard. Hope you're ok. Do you have family/a partner around? ❤️

Would it assure you to have more frequent mw apppointments or scans? If so ask your mw - they often provide them to help reassure you. As you can’t feel kicks very often you will probably start receiving them more often any way.

I had dreams when I was pregnant that my baby had died, like you I was so upset and could not settle until she kicked. She's 6 now.

My dreams were vivid when I was pregnant and I think it follows that they would be about things that naturally worry you when you're pregnant. I don't think it's unusual to dream about, especially because of your loss. You have to remind yourself it was a dream and of all the nonsensical things that happen in dreams (for me anyway).

Much earlier than you and totally different circumstances but having similar nightmares. So sorry for your loss. I'm 14 weeks had 2 sacs to start with but one baby didn't develop but I have nightmares about them both dying and a midwife handing me 2 dead babies its absolutely awful. Having had previous losses too it just petrifies me. I'd mention this to your midwife and hopefully they'll give you abit more reassurance especially after what you've been through x

I agree with what other posters have said. Speak to your midwife and ask what addition steps they can take to reassure you. All the best.

I can so related to this, although different circumstances. Yes, it is normal - it's a symptom of PTSD, being convinced that the same thing will happen again.

When I went through this, I didn't have enough support, despite begging for it. In my experience, requests for additional midwifery appointments aren't met favourably, although it's worth asking as it was some years ago that I was in this situation, and understanding of the impact of a baby dying has developed since then.

If you aren't able to obtain extra midwife apts, could you see your GP regularly? A friend of mine who had had a miscarriage saw her GP weekly throughout her subsequent pregnancy to check heart beat etc. Something like this would have helped me massively - if only not to feel so alone with the anxiety.

Take care OP.

Thanks guys , I'm having weekly blood pressure checks due too monitoring for preeclampsia (as I had protein in urine but my BP is fine) we listen in on his heartbeat during these visits. I didn't have these nightmares until last night I think the idea of 'viability' made me dream that he died inside me and I had too birth him dead as-well as his brother (who I will carry until I give birth. It's just I think sometimes it's overwhelming knowing I'm carrying 2 but only 1 is ok. Xx