Mental health issues during pregnancy?

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I think I am losing the plot. The smallest thing will set me off crying and I won't be able to stop.
I told my consultant yesterday that my moods were really low at times and she told me to talk to my midwife at my next appointment which isn't for weeks. DP is away tonight and I can't stop crying. I am such a fucking mess. I feel like I am letting my other children down so much and i feel sorry for the poor baby I am carrying.

I had such a lovely afternoon and then something happened and everything came smashing down around me. How do I get a grip of this? I have had talking therapy very recently which I know won't help with this. I just want to be happy.

I’ve totally had my moments with this too. Sometimes I feel so down and I don’t know why. This is something I’ve always had but it’s been heightened in pregnancy due to the hormones I think. Sometimes I cry and cry and can’t stop.

The best thing I’ve found to do is to just be kind to myself. When you feel down, try not to put any pressure on ‘fixing’ it, just tell yourself it’s your hormones and it’ll pass. I know it’s easier said than done.

I think in pregnancy there is a pressure to be happy all the time, abd that’s just not realistic so we need to accept that sometimes we’ll feel sad.

I’ve found that talking to my husband about it helps, or seeing friends and not talking about it as that helps to take my mind off it xx

Can you ring your midwife as your appointment is not for a while? Maybe ask for a referral to the antenatal mental health team. Or call your gp?

I had a terrible time during pregnancy too- lots of crying and pretty crippling panic attacks and anxiety like I had never experienced before. All I can say is that it lifted when DS was born so I’m convinced it was hormonal. Please don’t be hard on yourself and know that this horrible feeling will end, take it one day at a time x

Thanks for the kind replies. My family keep doing really stupid insensitive things whilst I have been pregnant and for some reason they are super triggering. I am still feeling extremely raw from yesterdays instalment of stupid behaviour. DP has been lovely and suggested perhaps we just shut off the rest of the world for a week or 2 and allow me some rest to get my thoughts together.....hopefully they will allow it. They can be a bit full on at times.

I just feel suffocated by the feelings. It's hard to think of anything else and very overwhelming.

How many weeks are you? I was much more like this earlier on but feel quite level headed again now I’m in the third trimester. I used to feel the feeling of tears coming on and it would be over absolutely nothing, even a very minor disagreement with my partner. I wouldn’t be able to stop the tears once they started 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’m also finding his family to be overwhelming with constantly asking things etc, I’m a very private person and don’t feel like a lot of stuff is their business so I’m constantly trying to fend them off

Same as Sarah, I was terrible during the first trimester. It's only after coming out the other side of it that I realised how low I was. I think I should have asked for help earlier.
I still have my moments in the third trimester, but like other people say, sometimes it's better to not look for a reason why you might feel so low as there often isn't really one! It's just the hormone sea and it does pass.
Take the time that you need, and if that's time alone then so be it!