Lost my mother whilst pregnant with 1st child

[Emtaboo]

Sorry folks about the somber nature of my post. My mother passed away last week. She was my best friend. I hadn’t told my parents I was pregnant. I was about to tell them the week she was rushed into hospital. I managed to tell her while she was still conscious in her intensive care bed that I was pregnant. I’m struggling big time with this as I don’t know many in position who’ve lost their mother. Some friends have lost their mother’s who were already parents or even grandparents. I feel like I’ve been robbed x

I lost my mum 18 months ago on my wedding day, and I lost my dad last week, I'm 38 weeks pregnant with our first baby.

It's bloody heartbreaking that neither of them will get to meet their grandchild. Both of them passed fairly quickly, Mum within 4 months of illness, dad within 3 weeks so a shock to everyone.

Sending you a huge hug, feel free to message me if you want a chat. My midwifery team are being amazing, please reach out to yours and ask for support, there is lots available 💕

@Emtaboo there are no words, I'm just so so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine how heartbroken you must be. Be kind to yourself and if and when you feel ready do speak to your midwife/GP if you need extra support. Sending virtual hugs

My god I’m so so sorry. I can’t even imagine how much you must be hurting

Im so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother aged 9 and I lost my father the day after my daughter was born.I totally feel your pain. Its especially hard when you have a close relationship. Is your Dad still alive? Please take care of yourself and do let your midwife know X

I lost my dad when I was 8 weeks pregnant in 2015. I had just managed to tell him and he passed away a few days later. It still gets me tearful at times. All I can say is you can do this - you can do pregnancy whilst grieving. I worried it would cause a miscarriage but it didn't and I got through it somehow. I took comfort in knowing there was a little bit of my dad's genes growing inside my baby. I know it sounds a bit weird but it made it easier to think a bit of him lived on. Love and strength to you.

So sorry for your loss.
I found out I was pregnant with my dd the day before my mum’s funeral. I was 21 at the time and it broke me. She was my best friend too, I spoke to her every day. DD is now nearly 4 and I don’t think easier is the word, I’ll never know if we were alike at dd’s age(s) or what age I was when I lost my first tooth etc! I struggled in the beginning with all the things you’d turn to your mum for help with, am I doing this right? Is this normal? Etc.. Dd asked me the other day why I don’t have a mummy, I wanted to cry when she said it.
You’ll get through it in your own way, I will be forever sad she won’t know my mum, but even more so now that my mum will never know my dc, they’re amazing!
Take care of yourself and remember she’ll be so proud of you