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Hello mums, I currently have an 8 month old and have just discovered I am pregnant again. This is unplanned and I am in no way financially able to have another at the moment, nor will I manage. It's led me to the only option being abortion but I am not coping too well with the choice and I'm feeling quite angry with myself for ending up in this situation.

Has anyone else been in similar who can give me any words of wisdom?

Thank you 🤍

Hi there, so sorry you’re going through this. September 2018 my little boy was 8 months old and I found out I was pregnant again... I hadn’t had my periods back yet due to bf so naively thought I would be ok. I was devastated, I didn’t feel ready at all for a second baby. Neither did my other half. In the end I decided to have an abortion. It wasn’t pleasant but it was fine, I got through it. I can honestly say I’ve never regretted it. Waking up knowing I was no longer pregnant was a huge relief. I’m sorry if saying that offends anyone on this forum. Now I am due any day with a very much wanted second baby, who was conceived when the time was right for us as a family. Good luck whatever you decide x

I fell pregnant when my dd was 6 months. Her birth was horrendous and we had a few difficult months after she was born. I cried when I found out and considered abortion, my dh said he would go along with whatever I decided and I thought about it hard. Lots of lists with pros and cons, I prayed and just asked for a sign. I got it and decided to go ahead, ultimately I knew in my heart I didn't want to abort I just needed my head to catch up with me. It did finally. I am happy with the choice I made but we weren't struggling financially and I knew my dh would pull his weight. If I had concerns about any of those factors the outcome would have been different. It was a hard slog for the first year, I'm not going to lie. I live far from my family and dh's would help if asked but not ever volunteer any help. I thought i wouldn't cope but I did (with the help, support and love of dh) and belive me I'm no supermum. He worked all his sister's neutral baby clothes and then we got given boy clothes as gifts, I was in the baby routine anyway so not much changed, we had all the big ticket items already.I quickly got them down for an afternoon nap at the same time and slept when they did.

I felt angry at myself for getting pregnant and felt guilty that I would not be able to give dd all the attention she deserved. It worked out for me though, ds brings out the feistier side of his sweet big sister.

Don't blame yourself! Is there anyone who would support you? Take time to think about it and then do what makes most sense to you. x

Your body, your choice! I know it's hard but think about it, make a decision and draw a line.
You will get through this x