Sex life in pregnancy?

[Tilly18101]

Hi MN,

Just curious but what effects has pregnancy had on your sex life?

Pre pregnancy we were pretty regular on the weekends (forget mid week we both worked too much/too late!) I’m currently 16 weeks and just have no desire at all, I think we’ve had sex maybe 3/4 times since we found out? I feel so guilty but in all honesty I cannot be bothered, between the headaches, nausea, exhaustion, I just want to roll in bed and sleep!

DH hasn’t said a word, he hints but if I say I’m sorry not tonight he doesn’t push it or sulk or anything! He completely understands but I also miss him and our intimacy, and I just don’t know how to get it back!

Does it get better as it goes on?

I’m 29 weeks and the same as you. Just no notion and especially now baby is moving about etc it just seems weird 🤦🏼‍♀️ The only way we can do it is if I lie on my side then it doesn’t feel like the baby is in the middle of it so much 🙈 I’ve found I’ve been sooo dry too, which was never an issue before! We tried one night last week and I was so dry that it was actually painful. It’s put me off trying again. I’m just trying to do it every couple of weeks so it doesn’t become a thing that we haven’t done it at all

Hey - I would say we have had sex probably twice a week. I’m now 28 weeks and it’s getting a bit more awkward 😂 heartburn and tiredness don’t help. I feel like I have to motivate myself now 😂

Previously we DTD around 2-4 times a week... I'm 12 weeks and we've done it 3 times. I can feel my sex drive slowly coming back but it's been hard! I've felt so un-attracted to DP which is so strange as I absolutely fancy the pants off him usually! Hoping it'll get better later in pregnancy.

Oh ladies thanks for replying! I don’t feel like it’s just me at least, I was hoping I might have more energy in 2nd trimester (as they promised!) but nope... generally just the same or worse at the 1st!

My husband is military so not here that much. It was normal until I had a bleed at 14wk which terrified me (baby follows mc's) so I didn't let him near me for ages and he's been away since mid April. At the point of sex drive ramping up again and not worried about baby so much as she's very active. Miss sex/intimacy but also feel a bit crappy about my body now I'm getting quite big and will be much bigger by the time he gets back, may be a lights off situation lol.

I’m 31 weeks and my DH has been very understanding but we’ve had sex once since I found out (I found out really early) 😂 I just haven’t felt like it at all and now I’m bigger I definitely don’t. I had friends say that they felt their best during pregnancy but it’s not been like that at all for me - I just feel a bit weird about having sex.

I must be weird, we can't get enough of one another.
There's been no lull in sex at all, it's almost every night 😂🙈 even with excruciating hip pain, we find a way 😂😂😂

I’ve gone through periods of being REALLY UP FOR IT, multiple times a day (think this lasted for 2 weeks around week 17ish) and then periods of “don’t touch me”. So really up and down! I’m 32 weeks and we had sex this week for the first time in a while. OH is very understanding and as this is baby2, he knows that he’s not going to get any for a while after LO is born 😂!

My husband loves the fact I'm pregnant! It hasn't affected us much, May do when I'm in the third trimester but so far my sex drive has increased.

Zero sex drive in the 1st trimester, lots of sex in the 2nd one, in the 3rd one, especially the last 6-8 weeks - just NO . But it’s all very individual, isn’t it?

God I just have zero desire. I feel so unsexy, lumpy and I’m exhausted. It’s no 2 for us, so at least we know the drill. It’s probably once a week/every other week right now. I’m 25 weeks.
It’s always pretty good once I force myself into it (how bad do I sound?!) but I just feel like a whale, who creaks when they move 🤣🤣

My sex drive seems to be very much linked to my periods, no periods no sex drive. Last pregnancy I could probably count on one hand how many times we DTD this pregnancy it's a total no go especially with a 2 year old in the mix. It's just how it is for me when pregnant and my DH understands. Once my periods return I'll get my mojo back and that side of our relationship will resume, we've been together 10 years so it's a relatively short dry period in the grand scheme of things.

We're having sex as normal, I don't feel my sex drive has increased or decreased.

I'm 28 weeks and we haven't had sex for a good 8 weeks since I started to feel the baby move! At first DH found it a weird unsexy concept with a baby close these which I totally understood, we now both keep saying let's go for it but when it comes to free evening time he's not so sure and I don't feel particularly up for it as I'm getting bigger! Also when the baby starts kicking up I don't feel like having sex with that sensation

Same amount of sex as normal in 1st trimester. Shot up in the second trimester as my sex drive went through the roof. I’m now 34 weeks and I don’t want to be touched 😅 I’m so uncomfortable and bloody huge the idea is madness! But I do miss it, I mentioned to my DH the other day how gutted I was that we couldn’t have sex, but I’m also not up for it. Like your DH he’s not said a word.

Basically, enjoy the second trimester!

Haven’t had sex once this entire pregnancy. It’s so so low down on priorities. Honestly always surprised when women say they continue having sex in pregnancy pretty regularly- all the physical pregnancy stuff aside I just can’t feel desire or sexual knowing there’s a baby in my stomach! It truly just feels weird/ wrong to me. Most of my friends felt the same.
I do wonder if a lot of women actually continue more for their partners sake but try to pretend it’s something they really want too.

I also had a very much increased sex drive during all my pregnancies but only until after about 20 weeks.

It is very individual, OP. I found pregnancy increased an already high libido - all that extra pelvic blood flow and larger uterus caused fabulous orgasms!
DH and I were always keen - usually every night, pregnant or not, and I actually went into labour at 39 weeks while having sex, as my waters broke.
DD used to get annoyed by the disturbance when she was a fetus. She would rap imperiously on my uterine wall during sex, as if cross at the neighbours when trying to sleep!