anyone else not excited, just anxious?

[Soverymuchfruit]

Am at 13 weeks, first time I've got this far. Just got my screening results back and all fine. So it should be time to start getting excited? Presumably?

But having lost the previous 3 my reaction on a BFP is firmly "don't get excited or think about it much, it probably isn't going to happen" and I can't lose that.

Have told immediate family and don't enjoy the happy squeaking. I might ask them to tell everyone else so they can all squeak without me and I don't have to sit through it.

Anyone else felt this way? Any advice for cheering up and believing in it?

I didn’t get excited with my first until I’d had the 20 week scan. I allowed myself to get really excited once I’d hit 24 week viability. Until then it was a long old slog

It really does get better though. 13 weeks is still really early even though you’re past the 12 week milestone, it’s understandable to be anxious

Thanks. Just had a good old cry about the last 3. I haven't done that much, this may be part of the problem.

Yeah I'm like that, am 17 weeks with my 3rd and haven't told anyone yet because I hate the perfectly described happy squeaking when I don't want to hear it. I don't get excited until they're born safely.

I know how it feels, I lost 2 before getting a sticky one. I'm now 25 weeks and finally starting to relax about it and get excited, there always seemed to be another milestone to reach before I would allow myself to relax. But I have found it has gotten easier, when I started to feel her move and when I started to show i couldn't help but get excited. As a pp says, it's a slog but it does get a bit easier to relax and get excited :-)

We didn't tell anyone till 18 weeks as I didn't want to get my hopes or other people's hopes up either

I lost 3 before I had my son last year. Pregnancy was an awful anxious time, and I never dared believe we were going to be successful. I was diagnosed with APS between my last miscarriage and the successful pregnancy, so on several medications, which was a reminder of the risk. Scan photos went in a drawer and didn’t come out again. Once I felt his little kicks and got to know his routines I started to relax - My hands barely left my belly once I could feel those movements, and in the days after he was born I felt like I’d reached the end of a very long, endurance test. He didn’t even have a name as we hadn’t dared pick one.

Now I’m trying to do it again 😊. I think I’ll still be nervous but I’ll be able to tell myself that it does get easier, and mixed in with the anxiety - which I think never really goes away entirely if you’ve had a loss - there’s a lot to enjoy and get excited about. Congratulations xx

I'm not excited and just anxious about all the things that can go wrong and then anxious about having a baby in my life - so I think that's normal!

Don't believe everything you read about what a wonderful time pregnancy is from other people - most people probably feel stressed and are too scared to admit it