Can slowly developing pregnancy ever end happily?

[Mum2baby07]

I’ve been on such a rollercoaster this past month. I found out I was pregnant as soon as I skipped my period. Call it a gut instinct. We weren’t trying as I’m 42 and have had previous ectopics as well as other health complications so this was an unexpected but happy accident.

I was seen by EPAU straight away given pregnancy risk. HCG levels rising accordingly and first scan dated me at 5+3 which seemed about right for dates. Next scan a week later showed the sac had grown but no other development so I was told to wait 10 days for next scan to see if anything developed but I was told there was a chance this was a blighted ovum. Pregnancy symptoms disappeared just three days after the scan and the worst seemed to be confirmed when I started a brown discharge ‘bleed’ 5 days ago which has been constant although light.

However rescan today rather than hear my pregnancy hadn’t developed I was told there is a yolk sac and the fetal pole is measuring 3.5mm but no heartbeat. I’ve been told pregnancy could now go either way but I can’t get my head around 19 days ago I measured 5+3 and today I’m a ‘maximum’ of 6+6. It just doesn’t add up for me and as much as me and my partner want that happy ending I just can’t see one! On a positive my breasts have been a bit tender again since Saturday but no other symptoms .

Anyone else been in a similar boat? What was the outcome? Can babies who develop so slowly ever go on to be viable?

Any one in a similar boat? Please reply if so…

How far along ‘should’ you be? Were they able to detect a heart beat?

I’ve not been in this situation myself! But my thoughts are with you! I hope you have a happy ending

I’ve hesitated a long time before answering because I’m still struggling. The same thing happened to me. Very slow growth but they saw a heartbeat. Sadly, I miscarried at 10 weeks, though was measuring the equivalent of 7 weeks. However, I had lost all pregnancy symptoms and, once they were gone, they never came back. So the fact that you’re feeling them come back may be a good sign.

I had the same and prepared mentally for the slowly-developing embryo to stop developing at some point, and it did. I also found the sonographer tried to make the situation sound more hopeful than it clearly was. Stay strong.

@anniebu That’s what happened to me but my first scan was in a high street scan type place.

Thanks for all your replies. Means a lot. The brown discharge ‘bleed’ has continued now every day.
Nothing overnight but as soon as I’m up and about it starts up. I should have been 8 weeks on scan day and I’m not putting on weight at all although I am much hungrier than normal and feeling tired all the time but I think that’s mental exhaustion from what’s happening. I think I know in my heart this isn’t going to have a happy ending and that’s what’s so hard. To keep going, doing all the ‘right things’ knowing the inevitable is still going to happen.

To know I’m not alone @sophiederuges @anniebu and that others have gone through this means a lot thank you x

@Mum2baby07 I’m sending you gentle thoughts. I had that constant sense of doom over my head until I miscarried. And I had to pretend all was fine and be my happy self. Do not hesitate to PM me if you want to talk about it all. You are not alone in this. I’ve been through this and know what you are going through xxx

@Sophiederuges thank you so much. I think I may do as would be helpful to chat to someone who gets it x