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Who is the father

13 replies

Comum · 24/05/2021 11:37

Hi all. I know that this is so bad - I haven't stopped crying so I completely agree if you're judging me right now.

Me and my boyfriend have been very on and off - I'd been on and off the pill too which is how this has happened. I found I was pregnant and we were over the moon and have been fantastic together since.

The only thing is I am worried in the back of my mind that someone else could be the father. The week I slept with my boyfriend is the week that I was ovulating, so 99% sure that it's him. I stupidly slept with an ex 3 weeks later (note - this was 2 days before my period was due and when I wasn't ovulating.) 2 days later I obviously didn't come on my period and a few days later I took a test which said positive.

Midwife has said it's not likely to be the ex as pregnancy tests usually take about 10 days to show a positive result, and as I missed my period 2 days later, it's too quick to have happened.

Am I just being paranoid or is there a chance that it could still be the exes?

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littleredberries · 24/05/2021 11:45

It is more than likely that your current boyfriend that is the father. The first ultrasound should clear it up. If you don't want to wait, you can pay to have an earlier ultrasound done privately.

Rose2108 · 24/05/2021 11:48

No judgement here; I would say your odds of it being your ex's baby are very very slim, but it's just one of those things you can't be 100% certain on I think, unless you are certain of your cycle! I'm not saying this to stress you out more but just to explain what I mean; I ovulate really late in my cycle (day 23 of 28 on the month we conceived), so unless you know for sure when you ovulated, that's why I'm saying you cannot be 100% certain. Must be really stressful to deal with this, but I would say overwhelmingly based on your dates your partner will be the father.

Comum · 24/05/2021 12:51

Thank you so much both.

My periods are every 3 weeks so I ovulate really early, like a day or 2 after I come off my period. Which would make sense.

I went for an early scan and they dated it to the week I was on my period, which I know isn't correct as I definitely didn't have sex whilst on my period. But I did a couple of days after with my boyfriend so I guess that's the closest to it.

Just wish I could rewind time :(

Thank you for taking the time to reply

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Snally82 · 24/05/2021 14:52

Early scan dates aren’t reliable at all so don’t worry about that. It’s most likely your bf

Wolfiefan · 24/05/2021 14:54

You need a DNA test to be sure. No one here can confirm either way for certain.

Redwinestillfine · 24/05/2021 14:58

If it was your ex it wouldn't show up on a test within a few days. I wouldn't worry about it being his. You may want an std test however just to be on the safe side.

Bizawit · 24/05/2021 16:46

@Comum

Thank you so much both.

My periods are every 3 weeks so I ovulate really early, like a day or 2 after I come off my period. Which would make sense.

I went for an early scan and they dated it to the week I was on my period, which I know isn't correct as I definitely didn't have sex whilst on my period. But I did a couple of days after with my boyfriend so I guess that's the closest to it.

Just wish I could rewind time :(

Thank you for taking the time to reply

Pregnancy is always dated to the week of your period. They count from the beginning of the cycle (a couple of weeks before you actually conceive)..
Comum · 24/05/2021 17:33

@Redwinestillfine

If it was your ex it wouldn't show up on a test within a few days. I wouldn't worry about it being his. You may want an std test however just to be on the safe side.
Thank you for confirming this, I did think that. Had an std test straight after thank goodness
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Comum · 24/05/2021 17:34

Thank you all. I know the only way for definite is a dna test but this is giving me hope that I can keep the pregnancy and have the little family we always dreamed of x

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Floopyandtired · 24/05/2021 17:40

Your boyfriend is the father of the baby, it doesn’t make any sense for it to be your ex based on that timeline. The past is the past, put it behind you and move on with your new little family. We all make mistakes. Wishing you all the best x

EdgeOfACoin · 24/05/2021 18:23

Based on what you've said, it's almost certainly your boyfriend's baby.

Comum · 24/05/2021 19:38

@Floopyandtired

Your boyfriend is the father of the baby, it doesn’t make any sense for it to be your ex based on that timeline. The past is the past, put it behind you and move on with your new little family. We all make mistakes. Wishing you all the best x
This just made me cry 😭 thank you x
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Thisisjaaam · 24/05/2021 19:51

Almost definitely your boyfriend’s. But I think you need to be honest with him about your concerns

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