Another "I'm scared about my 12 week scan!" post

[heybabes]

I've got my 12-week scan tomorrow afternoon and while I'm so happy to have made it this far, I'm really scared that they're going to find something wrong.

I'm trying to think positively and think that the odds are in my favour. I had a 5 week and 8 week scan due to a pain in my side (ectopic scare which thankfully turned out to be a large corpus luteum cyst) and things were perfect then, so I know that means a chance of miscarriage is low. I've also had no physical signs that anything is wrong.

However I keep seeing these stories on MN and Reddit, Peanut etc about people who have gone to the 12-week scan and there's no heartbeat, or the baby stopped growing at 10 weeks or something. I'm terrified this is going to be me tomorrow.

We've planned a mini-break the day after the scan and then straight onto see my parents (with the intention of telling them in person with a scan photo) and I've been looking forward to this as soon as I saw that second line!

Sorry for the pointless post, I know there's nothing I can do! I just feel really worried and wondered if anyone else was going through anything similar!

Hi I sympathise, I'm 6 weeks and know I will feel like you do all the way to the 12 week scan. I felt exactly the same way in my first pregnancy and got myself in a complete state by reading about missed miscarriages. Honestly there isn't anything you can do (I think you know that) but it's normal to feel that way.

Hi @heybabes
I also have my 12 week scan tomorrow and same as you are filled with anxiety even though I have basically at 2 weekly scans since 7 weeks due to a SCH haemorrhage. I last saw the baby at around 10 weeks but still can't help but the worst!
What time is your scan tomorrow x

Hi @SpiceGirl93 ! Sorry you're feeling this way too, it sucks! Hopefully tomorrow we will both have good news and relax a bit.

Mine is at 16:20 (wish it was in the morning!), what time is yours?

@heybabes mine is at 4.30pm! How weird is that!! Let me know how it goes! The odds are in our favour :) xx

Not sure if this will help you but it did me... I came off mumsnet and other socials for both my pregnancies and did hypnobirthing from quite early on as it helped with any pregnancy related anxieties. Good luck with scan tomorrow OP.

@SpiceGirl93 What a coincidence! Hope yours goes ok too, please let me know how you get on. Only an hour to go...good luck :)

@dohdohdoh Thank you, that might be a good shout. I'm really bad at looking at all the worst possible outcomes and then terrifying myself. I'll look more at hypnobirthing too - I've heard really good things about it!

You'll be grand!! Make sure you get good pics mine were awful at my 20 week got one of his leg 🤔

@heybabes Yes and it doesn't have to be expensive I didn't do a hypnobirthing course but I just got two audio books and listened to them over and over. One was Mindful Hypnobirthing by Sophie Fletcher and the other was The Positive Birth Book by Milli Hill. Hope the scan went ok today and best of luck with the rest of the pregnancy and birth.

How did it go? :)

@willithappen luckily it all went very well, the baby was fine and very active! Was really hard to get a photo as it was flipping around so often! But measuring a day ahead from the last scan and everything looking good. I'm so relieved!

@SpiceGirl93 how did yours go? Hope everything went ok

Thanks @Rubyrecka - we managed to get one ok-ish photo, ours was moving around so much as well it was really difficult!

Mine was all good too!! The sonographer was convinced he knew the gender and wanted to tell us haha but we said no 😬 what are you measuring as? When is your due date we must be so close! Is this your first? X

@SpiceGirl93 Ahhh congrats! I bet that means it's a boy if he saw something... :)

I'm measuring at 12+3 now, how about you? So due 5th December and yep my first. Is it yours?

@heybabes that was my thought exactly!!! I'm now convinced it is a baby boy haha.

That's my due date! :D I'm also 12+3! We will have to stay in touch!