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firsttimer123456 · 24/05/2021 08:48

Hi everyone. First time poster on here so sorry that I don't know all the codes and stuff. Basically I am one of those people you read about but can't believe it's true - I just found out that I'm pregnant and scan shows about 22 weeks. I know. I'm 42 and we thought we couldn't have children (several reasons) and when I stopped getting my period I thought it was early menopause (runs in the family).

Apart from the initial insane shock we are happy! but this is being affected by my stress about drinking wine before we found out. The scan (whaaat a trip that was as I've no bump) showed that everything was looking fine which was amazing but myself and my husband have a couple of glasses of wine a night with dinner, pretty much every night if I'm honest and having read up this seems like it's too much and I'm so so worried about what it might have done. I've never been drunk in that time, never had more than maybe 3 glasses in one sitting, don't smoke and eat healthily. In fact the midwife said because I was tall and quite slim that baby is probably hiding in there. She seemed more keen to talk about the chances of abnormalities than the wine when I told her but I am having sleepless nights. (we're going to do the blood tests to confirm for Downs etc).

Has anyone else been in my position or know of anyone who has where they have had children without any developmental issues? Obviously we can't see those from any scan... I'm sure I've read about women going out partying until month 9 not knowing and everything being fine but there's also so much scary stuff out there and I just want to prepare myself.

Thank you very much for reading.

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Fitforforty · 24/05/2021 11:47

I’m a teacher and I have only come across one child with alcohol fetal syndrome. His mother was an alcoholic, the kind that drank spirits all day long. She had drank himself to death by the time he was 10.

You were drinking a way lot less than this.

Definately · 24/05/2021 11:55

FAS is so rare, of course you won't be completely reassured until your baby arrives but we all know of cases like yours where mum has unknowingly drank through pregnancy, there are also many many cases of mums drinking excessively through pregnancy knowing they're pregnant, but have you ever met someone with FAS? Chances are everything will be fine. Congratulations on your baby!

SBParker99 · 24/05/2021 11:56

i was in your position almost two years ago, admitted to hospital to find out i was 32 weeks pregnant. i had no idea at all and i had been drinking, lifting heavy things eating the same stuff that they don’t recommend in pregnancy and i had a healthy little baby girl. i also was told the whole “your slim and your tall so your hips hide it well” so don’t worry. i was scared to but everything turned out fine and she’s now 19 months old and over achieving with no health or development issues

firsttimer123456 · 26/05/2021 09:44

thank you all! Especially @SBParker99 - that is very reassuring to hear!

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