Is it normal to feel like this?

[FireWafer]

I am really excited to be having DC3. But I can't get my head around being pregnant. Even though he is kicking away and I am getting bigger and bigger it doesn't compute that there is a baby inside of me or that he will eventually be here as a real life person!
I am going through all the motions, the appointments, buying stuff with my DP, talking about him but it doesn't seem real.
I don't remember feeling like this with my other 2.

i have been a bit depressed during this pregnancy so I don't know if that has made a difference. Its really hard to articulate and scares me a bit.

How far along are you? Was it planned ? I was overly excited when expecting number 3, but I had left a big gap between dc2 and dc3 and dc4 was a massively wanted baby

I am nearly 22 weeks. We had been trying for years but not had any luck so kind of given up on the hope of ever having a baby so he is very much wanted.

There is a very large gap between this baby and my first 2. I am not sure if that makes a difference. It all just feels like a weird dream and I worry that its a bad sign. I get really scared about giving birth again and just going back to the beginning with a baby when mine are pretty much grown up. What if I can't do it again?

Do you a sort of feeling like it's too good to be true because he was so wanted and now it's happening, and maybe that's the reason why you feel a bit detached? To protect yourself from grief?
I think it's normal to wonder if you can do it all over again, but you've done it twice already and this time you will have extra hands to help you. It's great to have a newborn when the others are at school, you can totally focus on the new baby and it's so much easier compared to having a toddler AND a baby to look after all day every day. As to giving birth, I've heard third babies are very easy and quick to birth ( of course this is not a set rule). But it was the case for me, my active labour was just 30 minutes and I pushed for 3 minutes. Have you looked into hypnobirthing or that type of preparation?

YES!! Perhaps not as big a gap but my DS is 4 and we've been trying since he was a baby to have another, suffered multiple losses along the way. Now I'm in the third trimester with DC2 and I'm like 🤷🏻‍♀️ I haven't even written in my birth plan or anything because I can't get my head around the fact that I have to give birth in a few weeks

@Monicatatie yes I think that is it, life hasn't always been very easy for me and I feel like I am constantly looking over my shoulder waiting for something to go wrong. I think also this is DP's first child and he is so totally besotted already. I don't think I would forgive myself if anything went wrong. He would be totally gutted. It has been so wonderful to go through this pregnancy with him and see him overwhelmed and in awe of what we have made. It made the first months (which were awful) barrable and has kept me going on the difficult days.
I had a chat with my mum last night too and i think life is about to change massively, DP is moving in. We are remodelling the house. About to have a baby. Going on mat leave......work is all I have known for such a long time. Even when my kids were small I have always worked and it has been my sanity to some degree.
Its been 13 years since my last baby so I am hoping that the fast labour will still be the case. My last was a fairly easy labour but my first was horrendous! 3rd degree tear, surgery afterwards and a horrendous recovery. I always worry that it could happen again. I also have a gastro condition and I worry about the pressure of pushing and what that might do to that.....I am under a consultant so I guess I should talk that through with them. I am definitely going to look into hypnobirthing.

I think I have worried myself silly and I just want him here and to know everything is ok.