Gender disappointment

[lockdownbabyx]

I've read so many of these threads lately, i found myself not being able to relate to them. However, I am pregnant for the 4th time (after 3 early losses) and we found out yesterday we are having a boy. Before the scan I genuinely didn't have a preference, or I didn't think I did. I was so anxious all week leading up to the scan as I was just praying everything was ok and the baby was healthy. Which thankfully it is, so why am I not feeling ecstatic? I can't help but feel down in the dumps, I had no idea how much I was actually hoping for a girl. I know this is normal and of course I love him and I will probably laugh at myself for feeling like this when he is here. My question is, does this feeling really last up until birth? I really hope not! I want to be excited and start buying things for the baby but right now I have no interest. I know if it was a girl I would have gone shopping immediately after the scan. I'm so annoyed at myself for feeling this way after wanting a healthy baby for so long. So, please tell me this doesn't last up until birth 😭

It doesn't last! Boys are amazing, my 2 ds are fantastic! Very loving, sweetest little boys ever! I felt that disappointment but I wouldn't have it any other way now! Boys are great! You'll look back and think what was I thinking.... Congratulations!

I felt like I always knew I’d have a boy first and I am! I told the woman at my 16 week scan what it was and she agreed 😂 A tiny bit of me did still hope for a girl so they could have the same thing as me, my mum and sister do. We then went for the 20 week scan and there were no problems as such but they couldn’t do a lot of the checks due to his position and had to get some higher up people in to check. It was a horrible feeling and I’m so glad we found out the gender at the earlier scan so we could kind of celebrate and tell people. I would not have felt like celebrating when I came out the 20 week scan! It really put it into perspective and I realised just how much I love him. We had to go back for another scan at 23 weeks and luckily at this one they could confirm it was all okay. I’m now 29 weeks and I’m just starting to sort all his clothes, deciding what to take to hospital etc and I really wouldn’t want him to be anything other than a boy. Once the excitement starts building and you start to see all his things it isn’t about the gender anymore and is just lovely. I’m sure the day I meet him I will in no way be thinking about the fact he’s a boy and not a girl either! I thought pregnancy was going to be really tough so I’d have one child, maybe two at a push but I’ve actually breezed through it and I’d consider having 2 or 3 now 😂 there’s plenty of time for girls and boys!

I'm pregnant with baby number 2. Baby one is a boy now three years old and from the minute I found out I was pregnant I knew he was a boy. I wanted to be a boy mum, I love him more than anything and life has been a breeze with him. I'm quite tom boyish myself so boy clothes have been a doddle.
Now let's talk baby number two, we longed for another boy, but very early on I got the same strong feeling baby was a girl. Booked an early scan, confirmed baby was indeed a girl. I walked out of the scan place and sobbed. Literally cried my eyes out. Once id got over the initial (ridiculous) shock, I've come to realise, I could never love another little boy the way I do my first and I think it's a blessing I've got the chance to love a little girl wholeheartedly too. I don't have to dress her in bows and pink tutus, she doesn't have to do girly things. Yet she still gets called a princess when I talk to her throughout the day.
Any thoughts and disappointment will wash away either as your pregnancy progresses or once little boy is in your arms, but it's very much OK to feel the way you do

I really wanted a girl and was initially disappointed to hear that i was having a boy too but the feeling didn't last long and now I'm so excited to be having a son! All that worries me now is that he will be happy and healthy. I'm sure that you will be feeling much more excited too once you have more time to process the news

Thank you ladies. It's nice to hear other people went through the same, just seems so silly doesn't it! So frustrated at myself for feeling this way and I'm feeling so guilty. I don't feel as bad today, I am very emotional though so my hormones are clearly all over the place anyway. X