Reaching out to baby daddy ?

[mumtobee22]

Hey guys I'm looking some advice. Me and my baby daddy broke up in January. I found out I was pregnant shortly after that. He had me blocked of everything before I got to tell him I was pregnant . So my friend told him I was pregnant and he said he wanted to be involved . He unblocked me off Instagram and I sent him baby scans and stuff but since then he met a new girl and then blocked me again. I can't get hold of him at all now. I tried reaching out to his parents but I didn't get much support from them. I'm having family trouble at home and I'm not getting much support from them either. I'm really struggling and we were very close before the baby and he always said if I got pregnant he would be there. A lot has happened between us but right now I'm really struggling and I could do with his support. Should I reach out to him I really can't do this anymore .

Baby daddy 🤢

No. He’s blocked you, he doesn’t want to be involved and you know you can’t trust him. You’ll have to find other forms of support, what is it you need?

Once the baby is born you can claim child support via the CMS. He doesn’t need to be on the birth certificate. Don’t put him on the birth certificate. Give the baby your surname.

You’d already split up. He might have had a fleeting interest but it passed and he’s buggered off so just try and forget about him.

No, he's proven himself unreliable and ultimately disinterested if a new girlfriend results in him stopping contact with you again. I would look for support from reliable people, a good friend or wider family member, if your immediate family are not being supportive.

If you haven't already, I would discuss with your midwife about your home situation and any difficulties you are having there.

Baby daddy

He sounds absolutely awful OP. I wouldn’t reach out if I were you. I don’t think you are going to get the support you need from him 😢 and it may make you feel worse. Sorry for what you are going through. Have you talked to your midwife? Do you have any friends who can help? Xx

I honestly don’t think you can rely on him to give you any support sorry

Trying to get it from him will be a waste of your time and energy that really needs to be focused on you and baby.
You sound very young. Can you speak to your midwife about accessing other forms of support
When baby is born do lodge a cms claim immediately, give baby your name and don’t have him on birth certificate. These things can easily be changed to include him later if he shows that he is worthy of them but are really difficult to change back the other way.
Wishing you all the best

I am sorry you are going through this alone. I'm guessing you are in your teens, so this must be terrifying. Ìs the relationship with your parents repairable?

How old are you OP and what support do you have that you can rely on? I would focus on those you can rely on and being healthy for your baby rather than trying to contact this guy again x

If he wanted to support you he would be doing
He's making it clear he's not going to. You need to accept that, I'm sorry

He’s making it perfectly clear that he has absolutely no intention of being a father to your baby, reliable or otherwise. He is also, to be frank, acting like a completely useless waste of breath, space and, crucially, energy you can ill afford to spare.
You have to accept he won’t be in your life, nor your baby’s. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can move forward with your new life.
It sounds like you have little support from home, which will make this a lot harder, but you’re about to be responsible for a whole lot more than just yourself, and that does mean that you need to take adult steps towards independency.
In the first instance, when baby arrives, as has already been mentioned, ensure baby has your surname, your ex is not on the birth certificate and lodge a claim with cms.
Your midwife will be able to provide some options of support if you open up to them. I would seriously consider doing so if I were you.
I, of course, do not know the situation with your family, but do you feel you might be able to patch it up? If you can, it would be advisable to do so, but if not, continue to make preparations to be as independent as you can be.
Best of luck x

You are clearly very young and this dude is a total twat. The fact that he has shown you what a waste of time he is so early on is a blessing even if it doesn't feel like that now.
Please tell your midwife about your personal situation and maybe you can get extra support. But do NOT expect or chase support from this loser.
I'm so sorry you are in this situation. It's a tale as old as bloody time. It will get harder before it gets easier. But you can do this.
Do not allow him back in your life or put him on the birth certificate.