Am I being unreasonable?
This is my second pregnancy and I feel my partner is hugely unsupportive.
He is very difficult at the best of times. Is very awkward and we won’t be asked (I’m suggesting) to do anything. He doesn’t want to hear my opinion or voice on anything. I have tried talking to him about all the below over the last 7 years of our relationship, but he worn listen. He puts his hand up to a stop sign to my face as soon as I talk and just throws abuse at me .
I have severe pelvic pain I am 39 weeks pregnant and a not yet two year old to look after. I spend most days crawling around after my toddler and trying to keep the house clean. I do the vast majority of cleaning, crawling around doing all the manual jobs, cleaning the shower, toilet, windows, floor, dusting, hoovering, picking up toys from under sofa, off floor. It’s all very manual and involves a lot of lifting and bending, which is very difficult being 9 months pregnant.
I hate having to ask him to do anything as he grumbles and it causes arguments, he then justifies that he cleans the kitchen and that he has worked all day and just wants to sit down (sat down at computer., when I am at work I work in hospital and al on my feet all day doing 10,000 steps) I have asked him to get Moses basket off top of wardrobe at least 50 times.. he hasn’t done it. So I climbed up yesterday and did it. I then asked him to get washing out of machine as I washed the Moses basket bedding ( as I couldn’t bend down anymore) and he said it was 9.30 he needed to sit down so it would have to wait in machine to today) I got annoyed at him and he then threw things at me and says that I only ‘occasionally clean’ when I spend hours and hours each day doing the things he never does. In 7 years he has never cleaned a toilet .wiping kitchen surfaces stood up is easy in comparison to crawling around on hands and knees doing all the other jobs.
I need the tyres doing on OUR car as I can see that they are semi flat.. asked him 100 times not done.. so I’m going to have to crouch on floor at petrol station with my huge bump. Otherwise we will need car and tyres will be flat.
I need the cot down off the wardrobe. Asked, not done.
I need pram out of garage (buried Under a pile of stuff, can’t move in there as it’s not been sorted from moving in 2 years ago)
I can’t ask anymore as it started rows. I have asked him to do all the above a thousand times.
I’m sick of him and his attitude, he hasn’t had to sort or arrange anything for baby (or our last) it’s all been me, getting things me need, sorting out clothes etc. It’s just all magically done. As apparently I do nothing, he pointed out that whilst our two year old napped yesterday I got to rest and he did not as he was working. (Yes I did, I am 39 weeks pregnant and have had an horrible cold / sore throat / sinus pain since the weekend so feel horrible.. but I shouldn’t have to point that out.)
Let’s not even talk about DIY and house jobs that need doing to maintain a house! He does none of it! I have to do it all.. or get my dad. I have this pregnancy (late pregnancy) re sealed shower (as it was leaking.. he would of left it), painted etc (he then came at me and said - you enjoy the craft like stuff! I was so mad!). Cleaned car as we were selling it.. mowed grass (removing a ton of cat poo.. yes your not supposed to touch cat poo on pregnancy.. but I had asked him 100 times and explained that and the last time I asked he said he wanted to sit down and rest 1st, so I did it as out toddler plays in Garden).
Sick of him and am seriously thinking that I would be best off without him. I can’t challenge him (I try) but he just throws it back at me doesn’t listen and will never ever ever ever say sorry or change his ways. He is a complete and utter ARSE.
I need to clean the oven today (it’s an under counter one.. so more bending with a huge bump) as it’s got something burnt in there form him and stinks.. it’s not been done in ages. I have asked him to do it.., but apparently it’s a ‘too hard job’ and we should get someone in to do it.