Gender disappointment

[loveandwarmth]

Hi everyone,
I don't know the gender of my baby yet officially but I have a very strong boy feeling and am getting boy from nub groups. I really believe it is a boy.
I already have a boy and I will love the relationship the two have but I'm definitely feeling some disappointment already (we will get it confirmed but I do feel so strongly that it's a boy). Anyone gone through this and have any wisdom to share?
We're not definitely "done" so there is a potential for a girl in the future.

I have two boys and due my third boy in August, at the time I thought it would be nice to have a girl but once I found out I like the idea of having another boy, I’ve got the experience, the toys and not as many worries or attitude as I would with a girl so I feel I can handle it better 😂 xXx
Try not to worry until you know for certain, keep busy and once you know then you can deal with how you feel 💗

Thanks everyone! Honestly I am already feeling so much more positivity. I think I just had a big rush or emotions earlier that was a bit overwhelming! The hormones don't help do they?!
I'm feeling so much better already and am looking forward to having 2 boys...
I know you're saying wait until I know but I am so certain. I'll come back in a few weeks and confirm boy for you all 😂

I have one of one and two of the other.
They are all so bloody different it's astonishing. I mean they look alike and stuff but personality wise they are miles apart.
I find any two can play together wonderfully, as a threesome they fight and bicker. I have no gender preference now, other than to say my middle is my easiest and least troublesome today 😂

Disappointment is normal because you build an idea in your head of what you imagine it to be. But in reality it's never going to be that. You're just having the come down now, rather than in a few years time. We all exert our expectations on relationships, keep an open mind and enjoy

I have 2 girls. My oldest who is 2 is a real tomboy, hates anything ‘girly’ like dolls, dresses or pink things. Is much happier running around in jeans getting muddy. It’s too early to tell what my youngest is like as she’s just 3 months old.

Like a previous poster said, I really wanted two of the same sex, instead of one of each.

I sent my 12 week scan picture to the nub whisperer and she guessed it right, I am having a boy. It’s my first but I’ve just always had a really strong feeling I’d have a boy or maybe even more than one. If I had two boys I think we’d probably try for a third baby, I would be delighted that my son will have a best friend and they’d hopefully get on great but I also would like to experience both. I think you just need to focus on how lucky you are to have a healthy baby and when he arrives that won’t even be a question in your mind! There’s no limit on how many children you can have 😉😂

I was certain my second was a boy at the beginning. Only time will tell.

And I'm sure it's nice having both the same - you can reuse more things and they can grow up really close to each other.

Which sites did you use for the nub theory? Are they on Facebook? The UK and gender prediction one are good although boys do tend to be easier to spot but wait till after 12.5 weeks to look. My youngest had a nub that didn't rise till 13.2 weeks so would have been potentially mistaken for a girl.

You're right we can have more babies and the bond my 2 boys will have will hopefully be so lovely!

I don't want anyone to think I don't feel lucky or appreciate what I've got because I 100% do and am so aware that some people would do anything for 1 healthy baby. I was quite emotional yesterday, with the thought of not having a girl and with the guilt that comes along with it because of course I will love my babies and I know when it comes down to it - I wouldn't change them for the world.

@Fundays12 yes the scan was actually dated 13+5 so I think it's pretty clear! I have no girl guesses at all and absolutely no "leans" everyone is just like it's a boy! Congratulations! There is a penis. 😂

Lol it sounds like you are having a boy. We actually we're not planning anymore kids when I fell pregnant with ds3. Although neither of us was disappointed DS3 was a boy I did think at one point a girl would be nice so I am not totally outnumbered so I got a female cat instead and she is one whole lot of sass and attitude 😂.

The reality is you could have a daughter that isn't close to you and a son that is. People and relationships are different. I love ds1 very much but omg he is such hard work and always has been. He is 9 now and more work than my other 2 kids put together. Ds2 is the easiest , most affectionate and placid child.
DS3 is very affectionate, and full of fun but can be more demanding though he is pandered to by ds1 so used to getting what he wants 😩

I totally empathise with you! I am longing for a little girl and my other half doesn't want to find out so it's going to kill me! On the plus side I think at least by not finding out then I'll just be happy with whatever on the day.

You're not a bad person at all for feeling like that! Honestly completely understand. Just keep going until you have a girl 😂❤️

I, sadly, am female. My vagina etc made me an utter disappointment. And thusly was unwanted,/undesired by my dad, who wanted a boy to play sports with, etc. I mean, who wants a shitty female, right? He "tried not to make me realise", but, kid's aren't stupid.We know when our sex disappoints you. Whatever happens, try, TRY, with everything you have, not to let your child know

I have a dd and a ds and am expecting another dd. On the one hand I am very happy because dd has been asking for her very own sister for the last two years. I have a great bond with my two sisters and hope this is something my girls will share. I have felt sad lately that this is likely to be my last baby and I will likely never have another ds. My ds is very much a 'typical' boy but so sweet and caring towards me and the easiest pregnancy I have had.

You might have another ds you might not although I have known each of my children's genders through intuition and been right every time. My best friend has 4 kids and has got the sez wrong each time so who knows. Also every child has their own personality. I have two sisters and we are all very different in our personality and tastes just because you have two kids of the same sex doesn't mean you will have the same experience with both of them!

You aren't unreasonable in how you feel x

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I have two girls and our 13 week scan showed a girl too . I am so disappointed and feel so guilty at the same time.

@loveandwarmth hey op wondering whether your baby was a boy or girl? I'm pregnant with my 2nd, first is a boy. All my 13 week scan guesses have been boy based on skull/nub theories although I'm not sure they're really anything more than a guess. My son is my absolute world and apple of my eye so I've no doubt another son would be any different, but would like the possibility of a girl x

I'm sorry it's taken me nearly a year to reply! I had a Mumsnet break! He is a 1 year old boy now and of course I love him more than the world and couldn't imagine him any other way.
I'm pregnant again now (only 6 weeks) and am hoping for this last shot at a girl - this is definitely the last baby but I don't feel quite the same way somehow this time even though this is definitely the last. What will be, will be!

I'm so sorry your dad treated you like that. My baby is a boy and although I was disappointed when a initially found out, by the time he was born any ounce of disappointment disappeared entirely and I love him with all my heart and I would never change him for the world.

Hey mine was also a boy, now 3 months and oh my god do I adore him! Can't believe I ever cared. As soon as he was born I was in love! Good luck with your current pregnancy sending pink dust your way :) I think we may try for another when bub is older and although a girl would be lovely another boy would be equally as lovely