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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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pregnancy scare

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poppyd5 · 18/05/2021 20:11

hi, this is my first post but i have read a lot on mumsnet before, mostly on the feminism chats. i am 16, my boyfriend is 15.
we have been together for about 4 months, we first had sex around a month ago, give or take a week. we have done it a few times since then, so i'm not sure when conception would have happened, but it would be between a month and about 3 weeks ago.
i was meant to have my period at the very end or very start of the month, and i haven't got it yet.
i have had irregular periods a few times before, but i was not having sex at the time, so i'm not sure if i'm just being paranoid now, or if this is actually related to pregnancy.
we have had unprotected sex, he has pulled out everytime but i'm not sure if something went wrong one time and it didn't work. i know it stupid to not use condoms, but we kept planning on getting some, and just never got round to it. it didn't seem a big deal at the time but now i am really annoyed at me and him for being stupid.
i am planning on getting a pregnancy test tomorrow at school, because they give them for free at student services, but i am really scared and was wondering if it was likely that i am pregnant or not, because i can't stop thinking about it.

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ChelseaCat · 18/05/2021 20:16

Honestly no one can tell you for sure. You have had unprotected sex and it is therefore possible that you’re pregnant. Getting a test tomorrow is a good plan and you can take things from there. Try not to worry until you know if there’s something to worry about. Hope you’ve got someone you can speak to in real life about this as it must be very stressful for you.

As an aside, and I mean this kindly, your boyfriend is under the legal age of consent and you should not be having sex with him at all until he is 16.

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poppyd5 · 18/05/2021 20:19

hi thank u for replying! obviously i've told him about it and my best friend knows too, so i can talk to people about it. obviously if it is positive i will tell me mum.
i know it sounds bad but i turned 16 late march and his birthday is early august and we're in the same year at school (year 11).

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luciles · 18/05/2021 20:25

When I was young I had a pregnancy scare but my period came after 2 weeks! The lady said it was most likely due to stress of starting a new job etc. Good luck.

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poppyd5 · 18/05/2021 20:38

hi thank u for responding i haven't had any type of stress recently other than obviously the possible pregnancy so i'm not sure if it's that

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poppyd5 · 18/05/2021 20:45

also does anyone know the most reliable tests for this early in pregnancy as i have read some reviews on morrison's and some say they aren't good and gave false positives/negatives which i really don't want

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RaeRaeMama · 18/05/2021 20:47

You definitely could be pregnant 100%

Me and my partner only had unprotected sex three times, I took a test and I was pregnant. It really is that easy for most people!

RaeRaeMama · 18/05/2021 20:48

@poppyd5

Just buy one of the expensive ones then you'll know for sure

luciles · 18/05/2021 20:49

I used ClearBlue not had any experience with others.

luciles · 18/05/2021 20:50

But it was accurate I used it when finding out I was pregnant with my son.

TheDaydreamBelievers · 18/05/2021 20:51

@poppyd5 the best early test is a First Response Early Response (not Rapid Result). However, if I am reading right your period is over a week late so any pregnancy test should show clearly, including the ones from student support services.

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poppyd5 · 18/05/2021 20:51

@RaeRaeMama oh god !!

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Mseddy · 18/05/2021 20:53

If your period is 2 weeks late then all tests will likely pick it up. You don't need an extra sensitive one. The chance of you being pregnant is quite high, you've had unprotected sex, withdrawal isn't a method of contraception. I hope you get the outcome you wish for, but I really think you should speak to your mum regardless. If nothing else she might help you access proper contraception in the future

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poppyd5 · 18/05/2021 20:53

thank u for advice about the tests, i don't have a ton of money obviously as i don't work atm although i am looking rn so i'll probably have to stay under £10 which is why i'm hoping student services will give me one for free !!

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Lullabymummy17 · 18/05/2021 20:56

Also can I please just add, pulling out isn't a form of contraception. You can still get pregnant from this so please don't think you can't. Have you got a local family planning clinic near you? They will provide you with free condoms or I assume your school might if they are giving out pregnancy tests. Best of luck either way.

Esssa · 18/05/2021 20:56

Definitely possible. Asdas own are what I used. Pink dye tests are more accurate. Don't bother spending a fortune, they all tell you the same thing. Only ones I'd pay a bit more for are the first response early result but since you are late that's not necessary. Hope it turns out ok for you and please learn from this and get the condoms, assuming it's a negative result.

luciles · 18/05/2021 20:57

If you're too scared to tell your mum please go to a sexual health clinic. I was in your shoes once and it is scary luckily I wasn't pregnant but if you are they can help you. School will support you too but I'm sure you know that.

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poppyd5 · 18/05/2021 21:16

hi does anyone know if a gp surgery has a sexual health person in it that i can make an appointment with ? as i live in a small town and will have to travel far if not thank u :)

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luciles · 18/05/2021 21:22

Yes you can ring the GP and they will help you.

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poppyd5 · 18/05/2021 22:34

thank u :)

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getyourfreakon · 18/05/2021 22:43

Get a first response early result. But also sort out contraception as soon as possible. If you're mature enough to be having sex, you should be doing it responsibly. Pull out method is not a form of contraception. Both of you need to take responsibility here.

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poppyd5 · 19/05/2021 12:42

hello everyone i wasn't at school today so i went the shop and got a clear blue digital week detector test and it said i wasn't pregnant. i will probably do another test tomorrow at school to make sure but i am very relieved lol.
we will definitely be using condoms in the future and i know it was immature of us to not do that before. thank u to everyone who helped : )

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SillyBry · 19/05/2021 12:47

@poppyd5 really glad to hear it 😊😊
Definitely a good wake up call to get yourself protected - you could consider going on the pill of your relationship is developing. Then no panic of not having a condom but wanting to do it anyway!

luciles · 19/05/2021 14:19

Great news. Give your GP a ring and say you want an appointment for birth control, it's dead easy they only ask you a few questions.

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