Surrogacy

[2021theyear]

Hi, my husband and I are considering surrogacy.. please can anyone point me in the right direction, we are not really sure where to start! Thanks!

Hi, sorry I don’t know anything, but this might be more useful:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/surrogacy

And good luck with whatever you decide!

have had a thought but not sure if it would be possible at all, so if anyone could let me know thoughts etc!
Basically I am a woman who has premature ovarian failure, I had a very early menopause at 14 years old, which devastated me as from a very young age I always knew I wanted to be a mum, I obsessed over the idea, but that dream was taken away from me before I ever had a chance to even try 😢, I am married & me & my husband have tried ivf several times, but it is the end of the road for that option as we just don’t have the money to keep trying and it not working, when you don’t have a lot of money it’s a massive investment with no guarantees at the end of it.
I have never even had a BFP not even sure if implantation has occurred.
Now I have had all investigations and been told there is nothing wrong with my womb and there is no reason why I shouldn’t be able to carry a child, so not sure why it has not happened unless an embryo made up with my husbands sperm is just not compatible with my body - I don’t know 🤷‍♀️. We have explored surrogacy and have been only what I can describe as treated quite cruely by someone I know who is experienced in surrogacy and lived close by (perhaps it was too close to home) but anyway that didn’t work out & like I said I think for a supposed friend who was experienced in surrogacy I feel we have been treated quite badly & our vulnerability exploited, but that’s another story for another time (maybe)! Some cold hearted people around I guesse. So my question is if I was looking for a TS surrogate who could carry a baby using my husbands sperm for us, would it also be possible for me do you think to be a GS surrogate and help someone else who could have a biological child but is unable to carry?
Ok so my thought process behind this is.

1. I know the heartache of not being able to conceive & I have always said that if I was able to have a baby for a loving couple then I would. My issue is though that it would have to be done with the woman’s own egg and via ivf etc with her husband/partners sperm, like I said no reason why I can’t carry just haven’t got the eggs.
2. If a TS surrogate was doing this for me at the same time using my husbands sperm, then yeah fair enough not my biological child but I would love this child knowing it is a part of my husband, I have had a very long time to get used to the idea that I will never have my own biological child, and I am fine with that.
3. I would love to actually experience pregnancy myself, yes won’t be my child, it would be someone else’s but I still get to experience being pregnant and have a baby still at the end of it if a TS surrogate is was to do it for me.
4. As mentioned earlier I know that with surrogacy comes costs & I know how much those costs can be, & it is wayyy above our pay grade, so also with me helping someone else out, it helps me out for my costs/expenses for my potential surrogate if makes sense.

Am I just getting desperate now or has this been done or could this be done? Do you think I would get much interest if I was to put it out there? Thought I would post this way anonymously and get some feedback before going to Facebook pages and potentially getting knocked down and blasted for having what I think is a good idea?

I had positive experiences with the Feskov clinic in Ukraine! Although many people talked us out of going to Ukraine. "Where are you guys going? There is Chernobyl! There is Donbass! You won't see any money or children." My husband and I were scared. However, many people from the showbiz come here, and we learned about the clinic from a famous person.
We arrived in Kharkov, we were greeted by a nice employee who spoke English. The city is beautiful, huge, modern. Very nice people everywhere. The Feskov clinic is the most advanced. No useless information, everything about the case, clear and precise. Immediately informed us of all the risks and offered several options.
In UK, the doctors completely dissuaded us from success. They said that nothing could be done and that we should accept or take a child from an orphanage. We were happy because we paid for a result that was achieved. If it is impossible to get your own eggs, the clinic offers donor eggs. But fortunately we didn't get there. The skilled doctors woke up my ovaries. the biggest miracle was our long awaited baby! We knew in advance that we were going to have a boy, because the sex selection service was also included in the package. There are reviews of couples on their YouTube channel
Regarding surrogacy, I found a Ukrainian law translated into English. I recommend everyone to read it. www.mother-surrogate.com/pdf/surrogate_motherhood_law.pdf