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Did you know your pregnancy was / was not going to be OK?

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Bumblebee25 · 15/05/2021 13:04

Hi everyone,
I’m currently 6+2 and symptom spotting for good and bad signs with this pregnancy. My very first pregnancy was a MMC, we then had IVF to have LO and were preparing for embryo transfer later in the year and were totally not expecting to conceive naturally. So this is a very happy surprise but I’m very scared it is not going to work out. With the IVF pregnancy, I had a very strong feeling that it was going to be OK but I don’t know about this one. I have no reason to think why it wouldn’t be ok but the MMC is haunting me. I’ve booked a private scan in about week and a half’s time but so scared to go and possibly not see a HB. I know no one can tell me for sure and I don’t know if the feelings have any validity but I would love to hear your experiences if you knew that everything was going to work out or not?

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Madeoftea · 15/05/2021 13:54

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I fell pregnant in January with my first which ended up in a MMC. I'm sure I knew from the start that I wasn't going to end up with a baby, I just had a feeling. I had a few issues and despite being told things were fine I ended up being right and although I was absolutely gutted I wasn't surprised at the outcome.

I just got my BFP last week and this time it's harder to tell because I've got all the anxiousness that comes with having a previous MC but I'm definitely feeling a lot more positive. I don't know what will happen this time but I know I'll get through it and mentally I feel completely different.

Dyra · 15/05/2021 14:10

I had quite bad anxiety leading up to my MC. I had some anxieties (naturally) early on in the second pregnancy, but otherwise it was like night and day. I was far more relaxed. Never had a strong feeling it was going to be ok though. More an absence of feeling it was going to end badly.

Hope it works out for you. Good luck with your scan.

georgarina · 15/05/2021 17:25

My last pregnancy was a cp and I had no idea, was a massive shock when I started bleeding.

This one I lost all symptoms at 4w5 and had a strong gut feeling it was all over - now 27 weeks!

Lou98 · 15/05/2021 19:25

At the end of Feb last year I got my BFP after 18months TTC but while I was of course excited, there was just something that made me think it wasn't going to last and I was going to lose it. 3 weeks later I miscarried. While I was gutted, I expected it (no idea why, it was purely a feeling I had).

I then found out I was pregnant again in September. I was very anxious after losing the last one but I never had that same bad feeling of knowing something was going to go wrong. I am currently 38+6 weeks pregnant with this one so it has worked out hopefully!

Margaritawithlime · 15/05/2021 19:33

I knew my last pregnancy was going to go wrong. We had lost a baby at 18weeks previously and I just knew this wasn’t going to work.
She’s asleep now. Right as rain.
Try and breathe through it OP. Having had any sort of experience like you’ve had takes your innocence away and anxiety is normal. But for now, right now you’re pregnant.
Congratulations. I hope baby is safe and well in there. Flowers

Cam2020 · 15/05/2021 19:48

I felt quite paranoid the whole way through my pregnancy and didn't believe I'd have a live baby at the end of it. I felt quite anxious until my DD was 1 and past the risk of SIDS. Completely irrational from my perspective, no reason at all for me to feel that way and thankfully wrong.

Verbena87 · 15/05/2021 19:51

With my son I was sure it would all be ok from the Frozen embryo transfer on. I was also totally sure I was carrying a girl, remember laughing in surprise when he was born and he wasn’t.

So I think strong gut feelings are not always right. And best of luck.

peachgreen · 15/05/2021 19:58

I knew when it wasn't going to work out the first time around and I was right. I also knew it wouldn't work out the second time and she's now a strapping 90th centile 3.5 year old sitting next to me reading a book to herself! Gut feelings are more about your anxiety than having any basis in truth. Wishing you all the best.

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Bumblebee25 · 16/05/2021 08:51

Thank you all for sharing your experiences & kind words. I’m glad your gut feeling wasn’t right @peachgreen and @Margaritawithlime and everything turned out well. I guess it is mind’s way of preparing us for the worst.

Sorry for your losses, having a MC does take the innocence of expecting away. Thank you again for sharing your experiences! 💐

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