Miscarriage after two children

[OliviaGrace15]

Hi everyone,

so I have two children ages 6&4 I had no trouble during their pregnancies
I want my 3rd and final baby but I miscarried last november, I have recently decided to try again but i am so scared of another miscarriage happening, as ridiculous as it sounds im worried ive lost my ability to carry children somehow.
has anyone else had healthy children then one or more miscarriages and then gone on to have another healthy pregnancy?

many thanks for any replies x

Sorry for your loss. It's likely just bad luck, happened the other way around for me, miscarriage first then two successful pregnancies whilst a friend has unfortunately had alternating miscarriages between successful pregnancies. It's incredibly common but not often talked about.

My older two were a little older but yes, I had a miscarriage at around 7 weeks and then went on to have a successful pregnancy about 3 months later.

I was nervous and paid for an early private scan but all was well throughout.

I had three easy healthy pregnancies and then four miscarriages for no reason that dr have a shit about. I went on to have my last baby and she is very cool. Each pregnancy was a terribly stressful time and I didn’t make proper use of mental health resources. Take care of yourself and fingers crossed for you. I know how hard it all is

Hey there, I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Unfortunately, I have only had one pregnancy previously (6 years ago) that ended in miscarriage at 23 weeks. This was so traumatic for me, and now I am thrilled to finally be pregnant again but the anxiety is very much there.

I'm just taking it a day at a time, and reminding myself that unfortunately, it is beyond my control. I've been told that every pregnancy is different and its success or failure bears no relationship to previous experience. Luckily my partner is being very supportive and reassurring. People tell you to 'just relax' which isn't hugely helpful.

All you can do is have hope and know that those around you will catch you if you need.

Sending you warm wishes.

Yes, I had one miscarriage, 2 healthy pregnancies, 3 more miscarriages, and a lady healthy baby. As you can imagine, I’m fairly anxious when pregnant, but my healthy pregnancies have been very easy and very easy births.

*last healthy baby.... Jesus a lady baby

Sorry OP. I have a similar and positive story for you. I have two DCs and had a pretty late miscarriage last summer (would have been my third). I am now expecting again. 30weeks and counting.

I had a miscarriage before the kids but I found this latest one very upsetting. Partly because my eldest kept bringing it up and partly because I invested so much in my dream. I absolutely dreaded another loss and it has been a rough ride with my current pregnancy but I am glad I persevered.

Thank you so much for replying everyone and so sorry to hear about your losses too, it's such a stressful time isn't it, I keep reminding myself how lucky I am to have two beautiful perfect children, we have officially started trying this week so I am currently in the two week wait to find out but the anxiety is terrible already, I know I'm going to be manic if I get a positive test, but I am so thankful for this page it's a huge help 😊

I had 3 children all conceived extremely easily.

I then had 4 miscarriages before falling pregnant with this current baby and am now 22 weeks.

A loss can make you question everything but it really doesn’t mean that anything has changed.

Good luck x

I had 2dc, aged 6 and 3, had a mmc late last year and am 16 weeks now. This was the roughest first trimester I've ever had, could be age or could just be bad luck, but yes it's terrifying after a mc.

I have two that are 3 and 5 and I had a late miscarriage last year. To be honest I find you don’t hear often from people who have children and then a loss so it felt so weird and isolating and almost like ‘well you’ve got two kids get on with it’ sort of thing. Currently 10 weeks pregnant and pregnancy after a loss is tough as fuck because it’s a constant layer of worry and anxiety on top of usual pregnancy worries you might have. I’m trying affirmations for myself everyday such as ‘I am pregnant with a healthy baby until I am told otherwise’ ‘I will not panic about things I cannot control’ it sounds lame but it stops my spiralling thoughts in their track with something rational. And as awful and bleak as it sounds I survived the worst before and I know I will again it’s just difficult to convince your brain to be happy and optimistic sometimes! xxx

Yes i had one baby and then lost
Two then had my dd who is the light of my
Life! X

@Ameteurmum I can say that you are absolutely doing the right thing with your little affirmations. I used to do it too. Mine was ‘today I am pregnant’. Very best wishes. When my baby was born I just spent hours staring at him and crying and whispering ‘thank you for staying’, I think the midwives were getting a little concerned (I was and am fine btw!) 😀

@luckystar1 I love this! I allow myself to picture the end game sometimes and I know I’ll be delighted, hopefully they stay! xxx

@OliviaGrace15 sorry for your losses .

Happed the otter way for me - mc then pregnant with my daughter.

Unfortunately, miscarriages occur on 1 in 3/4 pregnancies, so statistically, the more pregnancies you have the more likely you are to have losses, even when you've had healthy children before as each time you are entered into the 1 in 3/4 again.

I had one between my first and second children. I was going to say the same as @Chanel05 - if miscarriages occur in 1 in 4 pregnancies and you want three children, then it's perfectly normal (if also completely shite) to have a miscarriage along the way. I know more women who had a miscarriage than haven't if I look around the women I know with children where I know the answer to the question. I'm not saying that to belittle your feelings, but knowing how normal it is helped me move on from mine.

Of course women can have a mixture of outcomes. Never lose hope, good luck ttc and condolences on your loss.

Counting pregnancies 6wk plus, I've had...
Baby, mc, mc, baby, mc, baby, twin babies, mc, mc, 26+4wk pregnant now. I have had a lot of chemicals along the way too.

The mc's were 1 at 12wk, 3 at 8wk, 1 at 9wk. We saw the last one with a hb on a private scan a week earlier which made it the hardest to come to terms with.

Thank you so much to everyone for messaging, you have all helped me so much, 12 days until I'm due on so fingers crossed it's positive and a sticky baby 🤞 xxx