Husband and cleaning

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How often does your partner clean? Do they often irritate you with their cleaning?

Not often, but when he does it's very irritating as he makes everyone else join in too, and his version of cleaning is to shove things into drawers where no one can see it but it's not where it's supposed to be 😂

No, but he was a much tidier person than me. We had a cleaner.

Rarely, if he tries he does a shit job anyway.

He puts stuff in the dishwasher sometimes but never in the right place, drives me insane. Likes to sweep up everything in a big pile downstairs, all the muck and dog hair with toys. No! just no.

My husband probably tidies more than me 😂 and I never bloody stop so that's saying something.
The only time he irritated me was pre-covid, if we ever had people coming over and the house needed tidying, instead of cleaning the rooms like a normal person, he'd be polishing light switches or arranging boxes in the attic like "ThE AtTiC nEeDs To Be ClEaN bEfOrE tHeY gEt HeRe" 🤦‍♀️ bloody pointless

Rarely, if he does I always go over it so no point.
Trust him with the hoover that’s it 😂

He only annoys me because it takes him so long and I've no idea why

He always loads and unloads the dishwasher, the washing machine and the dryer. He cleans the toilet too because I don't like that job. He does loads of maintainance jobs around the house and the garden too. I do the more general cleaning jobs.

Mine does lots to be fair. He cleans the kitchen and hoovers all downstairs and sofas in the morning (we have two cats) and we both split the big clean every Sunday. He also empties the dishwasher, does the dishes and cooks. If I’m out of the house all day though those tasks will take him all day because he’ll do one small thing, then take a break, do another task, then take a break while I like to blitz things quickly. Can’t complain though, he does loads and I’m grateful for it.

I do a lot more of the cleaning or it just doesnt get done, but I do make him do his share. Its annoying I have to tell him to it everything tho, he just wouldnt go off and give the place a hoover and clear the clothes of the table. He has to be told to do nearly every little thing and it seems like im nagging all the time but sure, i refuse to do it all, its a partnership after all!

Mine does a lot, he does the hoovering, dusting, mopping, bins, cleans the windows… even does the skirting boards - bit anal & certainly stuff I wouldn’t be doing as much ha!

I tend to do the daily kitchen tidy up, quick hover round if needed, dishwasher, clean the bathrooms, laundry etc.

My DH was a relentless tidier/cleaner. Over the years, we have both learned to compromise. I look round my house and see perfection, and he just wants to start cleaning it all again, preferably with a toothbrush (not actually kidding, I do clean a lot with old toothbrushes).

One thing that helped in my case was differentiating "tidy" and "clean". They are absolutely not the same. A tidy house can have an inch of dust behind the cupboards and a layer of grime along the top of the doors. A clean house can have things scattered all over the place looking messy.

Working out what triggers your DH to want to clean excessively was a really important thing for me. My DH needs things to be impeccably tidy, and he constantly wants to vacuum the floor and antibac the kitchen surfaces. Beyond that he doesn't really care and just assumes things are clean. It would never in a million years occur to him to dust a lightshade, for example.

Whereas I like things to be clean, properly clean, and I don't care about mess.

I've learned to be philosophical about it.

Often.
No.

We have a cleaner.

Hmm seems to be a good mix of replies but the majority stating their husband/bf can be hard work when it comes to cleaning. This makes me annoyed that we shut up and put up and or inform and get ignored. I'm pregnant now and if I have a male he is being taught how to clean and how to do it right. I will not be adding another lady arse into this world.

It used to be I understand kind of like a stay at home/housewife thing but many women now go back to work- work their arses off- raise the children AND do all the house work. To hell with that it's time for a revolution ladies.

Your just right OP why should we have to do it all, glad to see more and more men taking on the responsibility and/or women making sure it is not being left up to them by changing the way their partners behave and raising sons the right way.

We’ve always had a fair 50/50 split but since I got pregnant DH has pretty much taken on everything as I’m so poorly, and have no energy, suffering awful migraines and nausea. He’s not complained once, it’s not to my standards but he does a good job and is keeping the house ticking over!