12 week scan nerves!! How do I calm down?!

[SunnySide1992]

Hey everyone. So my 12 week scan is in a weeks time but im finding it so hard to relax! I had a early scan at 9 weeks and everything was fine, thought that would put my mind at ease but it only did for about a day! I had a mc at 5 weeks last year so i just always think the worse. That plus i cant get myself off google! Im just worried as my symptoms are dissapearing. I dont feel sick anymore, still feel tired and breasts dont hurt that much atall! Am i just being paranoid? Chances are everything will be okay right?

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I barely had any symptoms and no sickness. Like you I had also had a miscarriage a few months before and I was actually surprised at my 12 week scan when they said there was a baby in there! I had chosen not to have any private scans before then.

If everything was fine at 9 weeks then the chances of anything bad happening is drastically reduced, it’s also normal for symptoms to start calming down.

I’m now 17 weeks and when I look back at how I was before my 12 week scan it seems ridiculous that I was getting myself so worked up and I now feel very sorry for my husband for putting up with it. Although I’m sure I’ll also be very anxious right before my 20 week one.

I wrote almost this exact same post last week!! I had a few scans early & everything was fine but I couldn't stop worrying before my scan. I had a mc last year & an ectopic in 2017 so I just always assume the worst.

Thankfully everything at my scan was fine. Nearly all of my symptoms disappeared at 9 weeks & I don't 'feel' pregnant most of the time so I totally understand your worries.

I wish I could tell you how to stop worrying but I can't so I'll just say I hope everything goes well with your scan & you're not alone 💗

The best advice I've ever had around this sort of anxiety is allow yourself to feel these nerves because it's a lived through previous experience but also allow yourself to remember that it's not a guarantee, you have every chance your baby is gonna be fine.

Congratulations and good luck

I was exactly the same before my 12 week scan. An absolute wreck and so so nervous and worried. With my previous pregnancy I found out at my 12 week scan that I’d had a MMC. Unfortunately pregnancy after loss is really tough and scans can cause such extreme emotions. The only thing that helped me is reading positive stories from other women that had gone through something similar. I am now 32 weeks with a healthy baby boy kicking away as I write this! Wishing you all the luck in the world xxx

@SunnySide1992 congratulations and sorry for your loss.

Pregnancy after a loss is hugely difficult. I had a mmc after seeing a heartbeat at a scan 2 years ago. I now have an 8 month old but I worried in her pregnancy every day. I even had a full panic attack before a scan.

It isn't that long away. Have you tried mantras? "Today I am pregnant" was one I repeated a lot. If all else fails, could you go for another private scan? In all honesty, that's what I'd do!!

I'm having the same anxiety my scan is next week and I just had my 9 week scan last Saturday and everything looked amazing baby had a lovely strong heartbeat and all and I'm so worried I'm going to get bad news at this scan

OP, I'm so sorry you're feeling like this but totally understandable.

I'm the exact same. Thankfully I haven't experienced a loss before, but I do suffer with a lot of anxiety and it has gotten so bad during my pregnancy. I've already been to the EPU at 5 weeks because I had an intense pain in my side (luckily turned out to just be a corpus luteum cyst) but the whole time all I could think about was having to cope with an ectopic pregnancy.

Thankfully I had a follow up scan at 8 weeks and there was a healthy growing baby in there with a strong heartbeat. I know that seeing a healthy baby at this stage means it's very unlikely that a loss will occur afterwards, but I'm still terrified at that possibility.

I'm 10 weeks now and have my 12-week scan in 11 days so fingers crossed everything goes well.

I hope yours does too and sending loads of good vibes to you! Good luck! :)

Handholding and joining. My scan is on Tuesday, petrified and fully relate to you, I've had 3 previous losses and one was a mmc which baby was ok at 9 weeks with heartbeat so I'm more worried than the norm. Also have a daughter though who's 2 but traumatic pregnancy and birth/after. Keep us updated, your feelings are natural but sure all will be ok. I'm sure it drops to about 1% risk of mc after 9 weeks x

Hi OP. I’m the same. 2 previous losses and I have my 12 weeks scan this weekend. I did see baby at 10 weeks and all was perfect, but like you that reassurance only lasted a day and I’ve been paranoid for the last 2 weeks that the heartbeat could have stopped at any time. It’s so stressful. I like to think if I have the 12 week scan and it’s okay I’ll relax but in reality I know I probably won’t and will worry the whole pregnancy. Miscarriages suck!

I hope your scan goes well, you aren’t alone in your worries Xx

Hey everyone! Thought i would update, had my 12 week scan today and everything was fine! Thanks for all your support =)

Brilliant I had mine on Tuesday all good here too!