When will I stop worrying?

[LdnHer]

Hi

I’m currently 6 weeks pregnant after 5 miscarriages. I’m just so scared that this is also going to end in tears but I also am excited that maybe this might be our baby.

We have a scan at EPU on Friday and I’m hoping this will put my mind at ease. I feel like I’m always going to be in a state of worry. I’m always checking if I’m bleeding, Googling symptoms non stop.

Not sure if anyone else can relate but I’m just not sure if this feeling will ever go away and I will just be happy to be pregnant.

It doesn't stop but... the worry will eventually be overtaken by excitement as the pregnancy progresses. Good luck

I've had lots of chemicals and miscarriages but currently 26+1wk with a very active little girl. It was terrifying when I had spotting at 14wk but all is well and I love watching her wriggling around. Each time I've got to cuddle my newborns after miscarriages it's been worth the roller coaster journey.

I'm 38+3 weeks today and I'm still as worried as I was the day I got my BFP! I only had one MC before this one and I know how hard that was so I can imagine the anxiety must be even worse with multiple losses.

While I am still worried, it does get easier to cope with, I tried to take it one day at a time and just appreciate each "milestone". For me, these were our 6 week scan (private), 12 week scan (nhs), 16 week scan (private) and 20 week scan. Also when I started feeling regular movements and hearing his heartbeat at the midwife appointments. I was always reassured after each of these things (even if only for a day before the worry set back in). But I found it helped to see it as the next milestone/step rather than seeing it as a marathon of 40 weeks.

Keeping everything crossed for you that this is your one that keeps! 🤞❤️

Congratulations, I hope this is it for you, I’m sure it will be ☺️ So sorry about your experience so far, must be so hard 😔 When have the miscarriages happened, very early on? I’m so lucky never to have had any losses but still worried non-stop til 12 weeks. I didn’t even really relax until after the 20 week scan! I’m a worrier though and still worry every day but in a different way now I can feel him moving now etc. Just feel so so lucky every second, my friend has had three miscarriages very close together so it has made me realise how lucky I am

The feeling does get better. I remember people telling me that the worry never improves but that's not true, I think they just forget how it feels at the very beginning especially post miscarriage. Things get better when you get past the dates of your previous losses, at the 12 week scan, at the 20 week scan, when you feel kicks and when you get past viability. I really really hope this is the one for you.

Oh lovely I can so relate to this. Three miscarriages last year and it just got to the point where getting to 12 weeks was impossible.

Kept persevering which wasn't easy and finally got to 12 weeks, then I stopped worrying. Now I'm worrying again at 28 weeks, worried about everything, pandemic, still birth, vaccines, lack of movement, my two underlying conditions.

I keep telling myself I can do this, I keep telling myself the end is in sight, started meditating daily. Anything to reduce that stress.

Worry is a battle but you win it by perseverance, making achievable milestones, positivity, and dogged determination. You can do this x

And the absolute strength and determination you have already shown is so admirable! I have absolutely everything crossed for you this time it's going to happen x

Thank you so much for the words of encouragement 😍....I definitely think little milestones are the way forward.

Everything crossed for my app at the EPU tomorrow

Good luck for today!

Good luck for today lovely! Thinking of you!

Update: been told I have a subchronic bleed, fetal heartbeat was present but will have to go back in two weeks.

Doctor seemed pretty meh about the whole thing...saying that it basically may lead to miscarriage or it may not all we can do is wait.

Fingers crossed !!!

Fingers crossed everything works out for you.

I’ve also had the heartache of multiple miscarriages and it’s both emotionally and physically draining. Really hope all is well for you when you next go back.

@LdnHer

Update: been told I have a subchronic bleed, fetal heartbeat was present but will have to go back in two weeks.

Doctor seemed pretty meh about the whole thing...saying that it basically may lead to miscarriage or it may not all we can do is wait.

Fingers crossed !!!

At least for just now you know there's a heart beat and a healthy baby!
It's going to feel like a long two weeks but all you can do is take it one day at a time and try to think positive (much easier said than done!)

Keeping everything crossed for you OP! 🤞

You won’t but that’s so normal x

@LdnHer hi, I just wanted to say I had a subchronic hematoma at around 7 weeks. By 12 weeks it was gone, I am now 24 weeks and haven't had any bleeding since 7 weeks. Most hematomas resolve themselves. I hope you get the same result