Anyone else feel very low in early pregnancy?

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Have name changed as am feeling so ashamed about this.

I'm currently 5+4, and am so so very down and overwhelmed. This is a very much wanted and tried for baby after suffering a miscarriage earlier in the year and I just feel like a failure of a person for not feeling like I can cope.

It's been a hideous year for loads of different reasons, and I felt that we'd finally got some good luck by falling pregnant so quickly after losing the last one.

I'm a SAHM to DD28months and all I'm good for is lying on the sofa and watching tv. I've tried so hard to get out and go to the park but it leaves me totally exhausted and feeling dreadful. I'm getting married in august, so am supposed to be planning that, but just cannot face it at all and I just feel like I'm going to look absolutely disgusting in all of the photos. It doesn't help that at the moment every single thing OH says or does makes me want to punch him in the face because all of a sudden I can't stand to be around him.

I want to lie in bed, in a dark room, and cry and watch Netflix. Every plan I have feels overwhelming and impossible. I don't even want to go to the corner shop.

Please tell me this is normal 💔 I don't remember my early pregnancy with DD and things were so different and much more simple then.

Just didn't want to pass this by. Sorry you are having such a hard time. Early pregnancy is tough. Do reach out to friends, midwives your GP or pregnancy advice services for support. Hope you feel better soon. 💐

Sending massive hugs to you. I felt so miserable between 6-13 weeks too. I’ve only just starting to feel myself again at 14 weeks but I hated being pregnant for those few weeks and felt even worse on top of that as baby is a very very much wanted baby after fertlity treatment. I’d also get irrational about stuff and sometimes get annoyed at my OH for little things.

I think what you are going through can be quite normal but I’d still talk to someone you care about/trust about it all and/or the midwife to see if they can help, my midwife recommended a couple of counselling services which I used and were helpful.

Hope you start to feel more yourself soon ❤️

Really sorry to hear you’re having a tough time - I think it’s more normal that people realise to feel so low in pregnancy, particularly in the early stages when the physical symptoms are so bad.

I felt really depressed in the first months and really felt as though I didn’t want to be pregnant and I had made a huge mistake. I really couldn’t understand why as it was also a very much planned and wanted pregnancy, having had IVF and a couple of miscarriages prior to that. Please do reach out for help - I spoke to my midwife who referred me to the perinatal mental health team and they have been absolutely amazing. I’m now at 39 weeks and feeling hugely excited for the arrival of my little boy soon - in the early stages of pregnancy I honestly couldn’t imagine ever feeling this way.

Please don’t feel ashamed, you haven’t done anything wrong

for you. Be kind to yourself.

I felt exactly the same. Also a wanted and planned for baby, but I was violently sick, in agony with abdominal cramps (which were never taken seriously by anyone, but they were, hand on heart, worse than the entirely pain relief free labour I had, which was not the plan but that is another thread) and I think it is the most miserable I’ve ever felt. The nine months spiralled put in front of my into eternity and I absolutely hated being pregnant, and felt so so so guilty for feeling that way.

Definitely talk to your midwife, or doctor, and be kind to yourself. Your body is going through a huge change. Hang in there, things will improve xx

I was saying to my partner today that yesterday and today I've started to not quite feel myself. I feel a bit flat and just zapped. I too suffered a loss in December and we all were thrilled to have conceived again, but feel I shouldn't dare complain or be unhappy or I'd jinx myself in some way. I'm currently 8 weeks and just keep telling myself this is probably due to hormones and my body feeling exhausted from growing this little one, and hopefully in second trimester will be a lot better.
You're not alone, I understand how you feel

It's normal, early pregnancy you're feeling sick, exhausted, and overwhelmed with this looming change. Plus when it's second baby you've got another child to deal with and it's hard! It gets easier, you'll feel better and stronger soon.